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Hey, Cedar, or anyone interested in FOO (Family of Origin) issues. Cedar, WHY NOW???
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 658164" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>In discussing this feeling as it applies to our addicted or ill children, the women on the site taught me to see our relationships ~ not just with our kids, but with everyone ~ like this: Those good, beautiful things cannot be taken or changed or altered or tarnished or colored or polluted by anything that came, after.</p><p></p><p>And that was true.</p><p></p><p>And I found love for myself, there. And I found love for my daughter and my son too, even when they were being rabidly offensive people I was ashamed to admit I was acquainted with, let alone mother to.</p><p></p><p>So, that was a really good thing to know, Copa.</p><p></p><p>How to see like that, I mean.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I am thinking the answers are floating up right now. </p><p></p><p>I will be interested to hear how you come into balance around these issues. I feel that same way. When therapy first began working for me, I would only wear cotton. Soft, denim jeans. White, long sleeve cotton pullovers. I felt so clean, so honest, so without pretense dressed that way.</p><p></p><p>Now that I am healthier, Lord, I love high, spiked heels and glittery things and being kind of illicit in those ways.</p><p></p><p>I love it.</p><p></p><p>But I am too old to wear the heels comfortably now, and doesn't that just break my heart?!? But I wear my hair all messy and cute, and I don't care what my mother thinks about my hair, anymore.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I know, Copa. How scary is that?</p><p></p><p>Like they want to be us so we can be disregarded and they never have to compare themselves to us again.</p><p></p><p>My sister must not know about those little pads I have to wear now, just in case.</p><p></p><p>Heh.</p><p></p><p>She can have that part. I am like, totally sick of plumbing issues.</p><p></p><p>***</p><p></p><p>D H is waiting, Copa, and I have to sign off for the night, now. </p><p></p><p>Until tomorrow, then.</p><p></p><p>Wishing you strength, holding you and yours in my thoughts and prayers. If you need that mother heart in the night, you can google Maya.</p><p></p><p>She helps me Copa, every single time.</p><p></p><p>M sounds like my D H. I am happy for you, Copa.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 658164, member: 17461"] In discussing this feeling as it applies to our addicted or ill children, the women on the site taught me to see our relationships ~ not just with our kids, but with everyone ~ like this: Those good, beautiful things cannot be taken or changed or altered or tarnished or colored or polluted by anything that came, after. And that was true. And I found love for myself, there. And I found love for my daughter and my son too, even when they were being rabidly offensive people I was ashamed to admit I was acquainted with, let alone mother to. So, that was a really good thing to know, Copa. How to see like that, I mean. I am thinking the answers are floating up right now. I will be interested to hear how you come into balance around these issues. I feel that same way. When therapy first began working for me, I would only wear cotton. Soft, denim jeans. White, long sleeve cotton pullovers. I felt so clean, so honest, so without pretense dressed that way. Now that I am healthier, Lord, I love high, spiked heels and glittery things and being kind of illicit in those ways. I love it. But I am too old to wear the heels comfortably now, and doesn't that just break my heart?!? But I wear my hair all messy and cute, and I don't care what my mother thinks about my hair, anymore. :O) I know, Copa. How scary is that? Like they want to be us so we can be disregarded and they never have to compare themselves to us again. My sister must not know about those little pads I have to wear now, just in case. Heh. She can have that part. I am like, totally sick of plumbing issues. *** D H is waiting, Copa, and I have to sign off for the night, now. Until tomorrow, then. Wishing you strength, holding you and yours in my thoughts and prayers. If you need that mother heart in the night, you can google Maya. She helps me Copa, every single time. M sounds like my D H. I am happy for you, Copa. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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