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Hey, Cedar, or anyone interested in FOO (Family of Origin) issues. Cedar, WHY NOW???
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 660479" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi Swot and Cedar</p><p></p><p>Swot, thank you for checking in.</p><p></p><p>My son is here at home with me. I took heart from your last post, and suggested he come. We have been together about 6 hours and we are okay, so far.</p><p></p><p>The worst was when he got the courage to tell me that he stopped the Antiviral Medication he is on for liver disease. For more than 6 months he has been lying. He believes he can control Hepatitis through vitamin supplementation.</p><p></p><p>His plan was to go to the large city by train tomorrow AM and camp out somewhere until he gets in a shelter where he hopes to stay 3 months.</p><p></p><p>He has no other plans. Nothing. Now that we have said he can stay tonight he is saying his plan is unrealistic and it would be best to not go to the City until space in the shelter is confirmed. You see what this is leading to?</p><p></p><p>He wants to live here.</p><p></p><p>After 3 months at the shelter, there Is no housing in that City that he could afford and I do not see him doing what would be necessary to get subsidized housing.</p><p></p><p>He Is not interested in residential treatment because he would have to give them a large part of his SSI, even knowing that it might be a route to subsidized housing.</p><p></p><p>I did remind him that there is a Jewish Recovery Place, where he could go, and that did pique a tiny bit of interest.</p><p></p><p>I do feel much better with him here because I have my eyes on him every second and I can see he is okay. He is trying to get along, and he has calmed down since he has been here. Less anxious. Not scattered. More focused. Happier.</p><p></p><p>I am wondering whether it is an act, when he looks a mess, or if he is anxious. He is reassured to be with me, and that reassures me. M is very happy he is here but my son was afraid because M talks to him straight.</p><p></p><p>I may ask M if he would consider letting my son stay here and watch the dogs while we go to that distant city. That way we could keep Romy. M has been resistant because he worries that my son would let the dogs out. Also the last time we came home to a filthy house with maggots all over the living room floor. My thinking is we could get somebody to check on the dogs and my son and the house on a weekly basis. But I do not think M will go along with it.</p><p></p><p>The thing is that my son is doing not one thing to stabilize let alone improve his situation long term.</p><p></p><p>I have to accept that his trying to go to SF for the 3 months in the homeless shelter is good enough and that we will some way find a next step after that.</p><p></p><p>But he may be open to considering the Jewish Recovery program in LA, especially if we let him stay here until a spot opens up.</p><p></p><p>So, I will try to take it one step at a time.</p><p></p><p>I am accepting that there is a possibility, maybe even more, that he will always need our help. And if that is the case we have to make a plan together so that he is secure and stable.</p><p></p><p>Thank you SWOT. I could not have gotten through this last 24 hours without you.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 660479, member: 18958"] Hi Swot and Cedar Swot, thank you for checking in. My son is here at home with me. I took heart from your last post, and suggested he come. We have been together about 6 hours and we are okay, so far. The worst was when he got the courage to tell me that he stopped the Antiviral Medication he is on for liver disease. For more than 6 months he has been lying. He believes he can control Hepatitis through vitamin supplementation. His plan was to go to the large city by train tomorrow AM and camp out somewhere until he gets in a shelter where he hopes to stay 3 months. He has no other plans. Nothing. Now that we have said he can stay tonight he is saying his plan is unrealistic and it would be best to not go to the City until space in the shelter is confirmed. You see what this is leading to? He wants to live here. After 3 months at the shelter, there Is no housing in that City that he could afford and I do not see him doing what would be necessary to get subsidized housing. He Is not interested in residential treatment because he would have to give them a large part of his SSI, even knowing that it might be a route to subsidized housing. I did remind him that there is a Jewish Recovery Place, where he could go, and that did pique a tiny bit of interest. I do feel much better with him here because I have my eyes on him every second and I can see he is okay. He is trying to get along, and he has calmed down since he has been here. Less anxious. Not scattered. More focused. Happier. I am wondering whether it is an act, when he looks a mess, or if he is anxious. He is reassured to be with me, and that reassures me. M is very happy he is here but my son was afraid because M talks to him straight. I may ask M if he would consider letting my son stay here and watch the dogs while we go to that distant city. That way we could keep Romy. M has been resistant because he worries that my son would let the dogs out. Also the last time we came home to a filthy house with maggots all over the living room floor. My thinking is we could get somebody to check on the dogs and my son and the house on a weekly basis. But I do not think M will go along with it. The thing is that my son is doing not one thing to stabilize let alone improve his situation long term. I have to accept that his trying to go to SF for the 3 months in the homeless shelter is good enough and that we will some way find a next step after that. But he may be open to considering the Jewish Recovery program in LA, especially if we let him stay here until a spot opens up. So, I will try to take it one step at a time. I am accepting that there is a possibility, maybe even more, that he will always need our help. And if that is the case we have to make a plan together so that he is secure and stable. Thank you SWOT. I could not have gotten through this last 24 hours without you. COPA [/QUOTE]
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