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Hey, Cedar, or anyone interested in FOO (Family of Origin) issues. Cedar, WHY NOW???
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 660552" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Ok...I'm on hotel computer. My tablet is dead and it's the middle of the night, but I usually get up in the middle of the night, then go back to sleep. We'll be home tomorrow after fantastic time with Princess and my precious little granddaughter.</p><p></p><p>I want to talk about your son and you, Copa. I am tired so can only do it briefly.</p><p></p><p>You have to take yourself into consideration when you handle your son. I feel your pain as we talk so much and so intimately. If you want to stick to your rules and you're ok with that, fine. If you really wanted to kick him out of bed but make him go late to help M, that would be ok too. If you want to let him sleep at your house at night and be out all day so he's not laying in bed, that's an option. You can also make him go to a shelter.</p><p></p><p>ANYTHING IS AN OPTION.</p><p></p><p>But don't kill yourself over it. Some of us need our kids near us more than others do and I think we need to take our needs into consideration too, unless our grown kids are stealing from us or violent or using hard drugs. You matter and he matters to you and you don't have a HUGE support system, like I don't. But you have less peeps than even me. You do whatever feels right and don't let anybody stop you. Your son is not as harmful to you as your mother and sister...it is different. He is mostly hurting himself, although he has his moments...it is in your hands and you have to do what you NEED to do in order to get out of bed in the morning. I care about you and don't want to see you sad and full of despair.</p><p></p><p>What works for one person may not work for another.</p><p></p><p>Big hugs and I'm going back to sleep. Will check in when I get home tomorrow.</p><p></p><p>Hope you're having fun, Cedar and everyone reading!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 660552, member: 1550"] Ok...I'm on hotel computer. My tablet is dead and it's the middle of the night, but I usually get up in the middle of the night, then go back to sleep. We'll be home tomorrow after fantastic time with Princess and my precious little granddaughter. I want to talk about your son and you, Copa. I am tired so can only do it briefly. You have to take yourself into consideration when you handle your son. I feel your pain as we talk so much and so intimately. If you want to stick to your rules and you're ok with that, fine. If you really wanted to kick him out of bed but make him go late to help M, that would be ok too. If you want to let him sleep at your house at night and be out all day so he's not laying in bed, that's an option. You can also make him go to a shelter. ANYTHING IS AN OPTION. But don't kill yourself over it. Some of us need our kids near us more than others do and I think we need to take our needs into consideration too, unless our grown kids are stealing from us or violent or using hard drugs. You matter and he matters to you and you don't have a HUGE support system, like I don't. But you have less peeps than even me. You do whatever feels right and don't let anybody stop you. Your son is not as harmful to you as your mother and sister...it is different. He is mostly hurting himself, although he has his moments...it is in your hands and you have to do what you NEED to do in order to get out of bed in the morning. I care about you and don't want to see you sad and full of despair. What works for one person may not work for another. Big hugs and I'm going back to sleep. Will check in when I get home tomorrow. Hope you're having fun, Cedar and everyone reading!!!! [/QUOTE]
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