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Hey, Cedar, or anyone interested in FOO (Family of Origin) issues. Cedar, WHY NOW???
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 660655" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>To me, SWOT, you did right by this child.</p><p></p><p>There was no way with his beginning that pain could have been avoided. That you did whatever you could do to help him through the transition speaks volumes. Supporting him to connect to his mother was kind. Who could have afforded a trip to China for the family? Not me. His birth mother dropped the ball by stopping communication. Of course the circumstances of separation were painful. Life is. That is no reason to drop the ball.</p><p></p><p>Now with my stories, again. My grandmother never saw her mother again in her life after she was 11 years old. She was sent away to be a servant to a family to St. Petersburg Russia, and with her family's help later immigrated to Canada. Her life was always unhappy. This is the life for many of us.</p><p></p><p>I had a friend whose parents were of the highest strata in China, before the Maoist Revolution. Her father worked in the royal palace. She was sent as a child to the USA for school. The revolution came and she could not return. She had nobody here except the family who sponsored her. Her parents were sent to forced labor and prison. She did not see them again until her early forties.</p><p></p><p>Life happens. Even to children. Some make it. Others don't. Goneboy made it. However much you say it had nothing to do with you guys, it did.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 660655, member: 18958"] To me, SWOT, you did right by this child. There was no way with his beginning that pain could have been avoided. That you did whatever you could do to help him through the transition speaks volumes. Supporting him to connect to his mother was kind. Who could have afforded a trip to China for the family? Not me. His birth mother dropped the ball by stopping communication. Of course the circumstances of separation were painful. Life is. That is no reason to drop the ball. Now with my stories, again. My grandmother never saw her mother again in her life after she was 11 years old. She was sent away to be a servant to a family to St. Petersburg Russia, and with her family's help later immigrated to Canada. Her life was always unhappy. This is the life for many of us. I had a friend whose parents were of the highest strata in China, before the Maoist Revolution. Her father worked in the royal palace. She was sent as a child to the USA for school. The revolution came and she could not return. She had nobody here except the family who sponsored her. Her parents were sent to forced labor and prison. She did not see them again until her early forties. Life happens. Even to children. Some make it. Others don't. Goneboy made it. However much you say it had nothing to do with you guys, it did. [/QUOTE]
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