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Hey, Cedar, or anyone interested in FOO (Family of Origin) issues. Cedar, WHY NOW???
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 660661" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>SWOT, we have to stop meeting like this. I have to get a life!!!</p><p></p><p>Once and for all: Goneboy got the right family. It was a good enough match. He was treated with love, sensitivity, security and kindness. Would you not have thrived with this? He did. His limits limited him. Not your home and family. In your family he got what he needed to succeed.</p><p></p><p>He was able to fulfill his destiny, what he wanted. With you he had everything a child needs. No child needs to be raised with computer magnates, with Steve Jobs, in order to have a fulfilled life. He sought that out for himself and found what he needed, through the parents of his peers. This was enough. You permitted and supported him. Other parents might not have. It was a good match. You did not stand in his way so that he could not pursue his interests. You did not forbid his seeking out what interested and stimulated him. You encouraged it.</p><p></p><p>You know about what could have happened. He could have gone to a family that was controlling. Cruel. Mean. That got into his head, beating him down. Now, that would have been a bad placement. He lucked out.</p><p>I am interested in this, because you know we found out my son has Hepatitis B by accident when he was 19. Nobody knew or tested him, ever.</p><p></p><p>I found out after I got him that his parents had Aids Related Complex. I picked up his medical records at the hospital, and saw on the first page that that his parents had ARC. I was sitting in the car, in a loading zone. My son was behind me in his car seat. I will never forget that moment and my fear that my son might die. And the sense of betrayal that I had never been told.</p><p></p><p>I brought him immediately to Childrens Hospital Infectious Disease department and he saw the department head to be tested for HIV and other infectious diseases.</p><p></p><p>Apparently he was not tested for Hepatitis, even though it was known his parents had ARC.</p><p></p><p>At the time he was born infants were routinely tested after birth for Hepatitis, because there was an antidote that could be given to combat it within the first 24 hours of life. There is no indication he was ever tested or treated.</p><p></p><p>I will never understand how my son slipped through the cracks. Not once but twice.</p><p></p><p>That I was allowed to permit the disease to fester within him for 17 years, a time he needed to be followed and treated. And did not know.</p><p></p><p>I have written before that we found out by accident when he donated blood to get extra credit for a college class. A letter for him from the blood bank sat on the table for a month. I do not know why finally I read it.</p><p></p><p>I know it is not my fault. We were let down, he and I, by others.</p><p></p><p>I do not know how I have found the peace and acceptance that I do have. I guess it is by choice.</p><p></p><p>Getting back to Goneboy. Is he only a carrier, without virus production in his body?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 660661, member: 18958"] SWOT, we have to stop meeting like this. I have to get a life!!! Once and for all: Goneboy got the right family. It was a good enough match. He was treated with love, sensitivity, security and kindness. Would you not have thrived with this? He did. His limits limited him. Not your home and family. In your family he got what he needed to succeed. He was able to fulfill his destiny, what he wanted. With you he had everything a child needs. No child needs to be raised with computer magnates, with Steve Jobs, in order to have a fulfilled life. He sought that out for himself and found what he needed, through the parents of his peers. This was enough. You permitted and supported him. Other parents might not have. It was a good match. You did not stand in his way so that he could not pursue his interests. You did not forbid his seeking out what interested and stimulated him. You encouraged it. You know about what could have happened. He could have gone to a family that was controlling. Cruel. Mean. That got into his head, beating him down. Now, that would have been a bad placement. He lucked out. I am interested in this, because you know we found out my son has Hepatitis B by accident when he was 19. Nobody knew or tested him, ever. I found out after I got him that his parents had Aids Related Complex. I picked up his medical records at the hospital, and saw on the first page that that his parents had ARC. I was sitting in the car, in a loading zone. My son was behind me in his car seat. I will never forget that moment and my fear that my son might die. And the sense of betrayal that I had never been told. I brought him immediately to Childrens Hospital Infectious Disease department and he saw the department head to be tested for HIV and other infectious diseases. Apparently he was not tested for Hepatitis, even though it was known his parents had ARC. At the time he was born infants were routinely tested after birth for Hepatitis, because there was an antidote that could be given to combat it within the first 24 hours of life. There is no indication he was ever tested or treated. I will never understand how my son slipped through the cracks. Not once but twice. That I was allowed to permit the disease to fester within him for 17 years, a time he needed to be followed and treated. And did not know. I have written before that we found out by accident when he donated blood to get extra credit for a college class. A letter for him from the blood bank sat on the table for a month. I do not know why finally I read it. I know it is not my fault. We were let down, he and I, by others. I do not know how I have found the peace and acceptance that I do have. I guess it is by choice. Getting back to Goneboy. Is he only a carrier, without virus production in his body? [/QUOTE]
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