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Hey, Cedar, or anyone interested in FOO (Family of Origin) issues. Cedar, WHY NOW???
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 660719" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Ah, Copa. It's easy to cheat. Don't beat yourself up.</p><p></p><p>Your sister didn't win. She is a mean, miserable person and will never win. Money isn't a win. Being a normal weight is not a win. Being a good person is a win.</p><p></p><p>I haven't cheated yet. The more they fade away, the less real they seem and they are starting to pack their belongings in the rooms in my head. Let your sister start packing and moving out of the room in your head. Try not to cheat again. That is w hat is making m y recovery from "them" go along so well. They become so much less real to me when I don't look into their existence and what they do. </p><p></p><p>For all I know my sister is crazily posting about me on her anon. site and still calling me borderline. I don't care anymore. I don't want to know. And I'm beginning not to care if she thinks I'm borderline because she is not a part of my life. She can think whatever she likes, but she can't score what she'd consider a "win" because you can't win anything even in your own mind when the other person doesn't know what you won and doesn't care what you do.</p><p></p><p>Next time you feel like checking up on Sis remember how it felt this time and hesitate. Then write down the costs to you and benefits to you. I haven't had to do it, but if I got a strong urge to check, say, FB or that site, that's what I'd do. I'm sure after a self-assessment I'd be laughing at myself for even considering it. You would too <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>I wonder where Cedar is. Cedar!!!! We miss ya!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 660719, member: 1550"] Ah, Copa. It's easy to cheat. Don't beat yourself up. Your sister didn't win. She is a mean, miserable person and will never win. Money isn't a win. Being a normal weight is not a win. Being a good person is a win. I haven't cheated yet. The more they fade away, the less real they seem and they are starting to pack their belongings in the rooms in my head. Let your sister start packing and moving out of the room in your head. Try not to cheat again. That is w hat is making m y recovery from "them" go along so well. They become so much less real to me when I don't look into their existence and what they do. For all I know my sister is crazily posting about me on her anon. site and still calling me borderline. I don't care anymore. I don't want to know. And I'm beginning not to care if she thinks I'm borderline because she is not a part of my life. She can think whatever she likes, but she can't score what she'd consider a "win" because you can't win anything even in your own mind when the other person doesn't know what you won and doesn't care what you do. Next time you feel like checking up on Sis remember how it felt this time and hesitate. Then write down the costs to you and benefits to you. I haven't had to do it, but if I got a strong urge to check, say, FB or that site, that's what I'd do. I'm sure after a self-assessment I'd be laughing at myself for even considering it. You would too :) I wonder where Cedar is. Cedar!!!! We miss ya! [/QUOTE]
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