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Hey, Cedar, or anyone interested in FOO (Family of Origin) issues. Cedar, WHY NOW???
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 661071" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Not really. I should have thrown many people out of my club because of the way they treated me and I'm sorry that I let them in to play with my emotions for so long. However, when it's your child, there's a lot more to it and it could end up hurting you more than him.</p><p>It is not easy to throw anybody who is supposed to love us out of our club. I actually had to be forced to do it by them. Looking back I could kick myself for not letting my mother go as soon as the $5000 bit started, let my sister go after her second cut off and the cops and let my brother go after the letter.</p><p>Did they have some good points? YES! I'm not perfect. I have neurological differences and a mood disorder and I also sometimes can be hurtful, just like they can. We all learned from the Queen of Mean (oh, I like that!) Ouru mother taught us the way to be the absolute most hurtful; how to deliberately push buttons. But it tends to happen ONLY WITH THEM...FOO. I should have figured that out and left way early. It doesn't matter whose fault it was or wasn't. It probably isn't anyone's fault or it's all of our faults. I was the one who had the insight and I should have detached because...it was best for me and for them too for the scapegoat to be taken out of the dysfunctional family picture. I have done it now, in so far as they will NEVER be allowed back, and that matters because at some point in time Sis will come back, unless she is still reading this and realizes it would be futile...</p><p>But I have no idea how I'd leave a child of mine. Or if I could. No matter how much I hurt. So I can not judge since I didn't do it.</p><p>It is human to feel anger at anyone who tries to hurt us.</p><p></p><p>Copa, you are good and kind and way too hard on yourself for having normal human feelings.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 661071, member: 1550"] Not really. I should have thrown many people out of my club because of the way they treated me and I'm sorry that I let them in to play with my emotions for so long. However, when it's your child, there's a lot more to it and it could end up hurting you more than him. It is not easy to throw anybody who is supposed to love us out of our club. I actually had to be forced to do it by them. Looking back I could kick myself for not letting my mother go as soon as the $5000 bit started, let my sister go after her second cut off and the cops and let my brother go after the letter. Did they have some good points? YES! I'm not perfect. I have neurological differences and a mood disorder and I also sometimes can be hurtful, just like they can. We all learned from the Queen of Mean (oh, I like that!) Ouru mother taught us the way to be the absolute most hurtful; how to deliberately push buttons. But it tends to happen ONLY WITH THEM...FOO. I should have figured that out and left way early. It doesn't matter whose fault it was or wasn't. It probably isn't anyone's fault or it's all of our faults. I was the one who had the insight and I should have detached because...it was best for me and for them too for the scapegoat to be taken out of the dysfunctional family picture. I have done it now, in so far as they will NEVER be allowed back, and that matters because at some point in time Sis will come back, unless she is still reading this and realizes it would be futile... But I have no idea how I'd leave a child of mine. Or if I could. No matter how much I hurt. So I can not judge since I didn't do it. It is human to feel anger at anyone who tries to hurt us. Copa, you are good and kind and way too hard on yourself for having normal human feelings. [/QUOTE]
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