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Hey, Cedar, or anyone interested in FOO (Family of Origin) issues. Cedar, WHY NOW???
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 661114" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'm glad you are finally at "disgust." You were making excuses at first.</p><p></p><p>I can't say disgust is a word I think of when I think of "them" (and they are on my mind a lot less lately). It's more repulsion, but not because they are repulsive human beings. To others maybe they aren't. The repulsion comes for what I know I heard from them and how I allowed it for so long. That's w hat repulses me. My own behavior. And, unlike you two, I was not under any delusions that my mother and sister were intrinsically nice. I knew the things they did were over-the-top mean. I knew it just by observing other families. Even the less functional ones didn't toss this one and that one out of their lives. I have never heard of a sibling calling the cops on her sibling for trying to find out why she was angry, except for my "special" sister. I knew my mother was a whack job early on. I was very aware t hat I did not know much about my brother too. I did not engage them because I thought they were good people. My sister and I DID have fun times, but I had been burned by her so many times that thinking she was a loving sister and nice person...well, I knew better. Mother, when alive, I never liked her. She never liked me. No fiction there. </p><p></p><p>I engaged them because I wanted to end my life on t his earth on good terms with my FOO. I will now just have to deal with whatever the afterlife brings me as I won't play anymore.</p><p></p><p>Cedar, back to you. You are seeing the FOO with clear eyes now. You are not fooling yourself that you can change them. So they disgust you. So they should.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 661114, member: 1550"] I'm glad you are finally at "disgust." You were making excuses at first. I can't say disgust is a word I think of when I think of "them" (and they are on my mind a lot less lately). It's more repulsion, but not because they are repulsive human beings. To others maybe they aren't. The repulsion comes for what I know I heard from them and how I allowed it for so long. That's w hat repulses me. My own behavior. And, unlike you two, I was not under any delusions that my mother and sister were intrinsically nice. I knew the things they did were over-the-top mean. I knew it just by observing other families. Even the less functional ones didn't toss this one and that one out of their lives. I have never heard of a sibling calling the cops on her sibling for trying to find out why she was angry, except for my "special" sister. I knew my mother was a whack job early on. I was very aware t hat I did not know much about my brother too. I did not engage them because I thought they were good people. My sister and I DID have fun times, but I had been burned by her so many times that thinking she was a loving sister and nice person...well, I knew better. Mother, when alive, I never liked her. She never liked me. No fiction there. I engaged them because I wanted to end my life on t his earth on good terms with my FOO. I will now just have to deal with whatever the afterlife brings me as I won't play anymore. Cedar, back to you. You are seeing the FOO with clear eyes now. You are not fooling yourself that you can change them. So they disgust you. So they should. [/QUOTE]
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