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Hey, Cedar, or anyone interested in FOO (Family of Origin) issues. Cedar, WHY NOW???
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 661246" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi SWOT. You are right. I just posted about this on the TRUE NORTH thread that COM started this morning, I think.</p><p></p><p>I agree with you in much of what you say.</p><p></p><p>My mother did not insist that I take care of her. It was me that did it to myself. I could not find the personal power to tolerate her suffering, and could not not sacrifice myself to fix it.</p><p></p><p>If I was THEN as I am now, I would still have cared for her, though. I would have decided to do it. For me. Not because I could not stand her suffering.</p><p></p><p>I recognize that the best relationship I ever had with my mother was as she died, because this was the only time that I did not subordinate myself to her domination.</p><p></p><p>But unfortunately, this was not because I got stronger. It was because she was weaker. And no longer triggered me, because she could no longer do so.</p><p></p><p>I am seeing my life in new ways these past few days. I am still not doing much differently. But seeing differently.</p><p></p><p>I do not want any longer to give in to the impulse to remain in bed so I will get back to you later. Thank you SWOT. And Cedar.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 661246, member: 18958"] Hi SWOT. You are right. I just posted about this on the TRUE NORTH thread that COM started this morning, I think. I agree with you in much of what you say. My mother did not insist that I take care of her. It was me that did it to myself. I could not find the personal power to tolerate her suffering, and could not not sacrifice myself to fix it. If I was THEN as I am now, I would still have cared for her, though. I would have decided to do it. For me. Not because I could not stand her suffering. I recognize that the best relationship I ever had with my mother was as she died, because this was the only time that I did not subordinate myself to her domination. But unfortunately, this was not because I got stronger. It was because she was weaker. And no longer triggered me, because she could no longer do so. I am seeing my life in new ways these past few days. I am still not doing much differently. But seeing differently. I do not want any longer to give in to the impulse to remain in bed so I will get back to you later. Thank you SWOT. And Cedar. COPA [/QUOTE]
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