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Hey, Cedar, or anyone interested in FOO (Family of Origin) issues. Cedar, WHY NOW???
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 661462" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I disagree, really. That he is a D C and acts like one does not mean others are not responsible for their behavior.</p><p></p><p>I will give you an example that is painful to me 20 years later.</p><p></p><p>My sister had twins. When we went to a restaurant, she permitted her toddlers to climb all over everything, onto and over the backs of banquettes and under the tables of others. Her girls would whoop and scream and there was no intervention or comment by her or her husband.</p><p></p><p>A few years later she and I and our kids were at an outdoor BBQ at the home of an elderly Uncle and Aunt. My hyperactive son, then 6 or so, was sitting at a picnic table across from me and complained about some childish thing.</p><p></p><p>The next thing I knew my son screamed out, "Don't pinch me. She pinched my back." My uncle's wife was standing behind him at the time.</p><p></p><p>A few minutes later I entered the house. My sister was there talking with my Aunt. I heard her say this: "I am so, so sorry he did that to you. I am so embarrassed. I am so embarassed that he did that and that COPA allowed it."</p><p></p><p>What in the world did he do wrong?</p><p></p><p>10 minutes later my sister came up to me and said this. "I'm sorry. I was probably out of line." I looked her and said nothing.</p><p></p><p>Everybody is responsible for behaving correctly. Even if our D C's are bad, bad, bad to the bone, it does not give others a pass to act worse.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 661462, member: 18958"] I disagree, really. That he is a D C and acts like one does not mean others are not responsible for their behavior. I will give you an example that is painful to me 20 years later. My sister had twins. When we went to a restaurant, she permitted her toddlers to climb all over everything, onto and over the backs of banquettes and under the tables of others. Her girls would whoop and scream and there was no intervention or comment by her or her husband. A few years later she and I and our kids were at an outdoor BBQ at the home of an elderly Uncle and Aunt. My hyperactive son, then 6 or so, was sitting at a picnic table across from me and complained about some childish thing. The next thing I knew my son screamed out, "Don't pinch me. She pinched my back." My uncle's wife was standing behind him at the time. A few minutes later I entered the house. My sister was there talking with my Aunt. I heard her say this: "I am so, so sorry he did that to you. I am so embarrassed. I am so embarassed that he did that and that COPA allowed it." What in the world did he do wrong? 10 minutes later my sister came up to me and said this. "I'm sorry. I was probably out of line." I looked her and said nothing. Everybody is responsible for behaving correctly. Even if our D C's are bad, bad, bad to the bone, it does not give others a pass to act worse. [/QUOTE]
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