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Hey, Cedar, or anyone interested in FOO (Family of Origin) issues. Cedar, WHY NOW???
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 661793" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>If I understand this correctly, this is so ugly.</p><p></p><p>If the intent of your father was to protect this child, to protect his son, your brother, and your sister chose to subvert this arrangement. To rob this child, to rob the protections to this child. To rob the assistance to your brother, to the extent that he would worry less and have a lesser burden.</p><p></p><p>To the extent that a Christian Woman, who identifies with the ideals of Christ would plot such a thing, do such a thing....well, I do not want to even write what I think it is.</p><p>Could well be.</p><p></p><p>Do you think as well it is a way almost to create a new kind of identity...as someone who sees and says what she sees...to see yourself as such. Once it is out there...it is there for you to see yourself. To own it and to change more.</p><p></p><p>For example, I am using the posts to write out what I feel about one thing or another. More and more I write from a strong point of view. I have seen abuse. I record what I have seen. I condemn what I see.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes when I write I get afraid. I think that other people will get mad at me. Criticize me. I fear I look too strong. That my tone is too strident. Too forceful. I do it anyhow.</p><p></p><p>I become a different sort of person, doing this.</p><p></p><p>A person afraid to speak out but who does it anyhow.</p><p>Each time I become stronger.</p><p></p><p>I become a person who sees abuse, records it and condemns it. I begin to see myself as such, as no longer just a victim. As somebody with a voice. I feel strong. I feel sure.</p><p></p><p>Cedar, I am appalled by your sister and your mother and what is happening about money. I am appalled this is happening to you. I hate that they can plot and plan and act in this way....</p><p></p><p>My sister did this and did influence my Mother to reverse a bequest to me. It was considerable, 100 k.</p><p></p><p>I asked my Mother in the year before she died in what bank did she put the money. I cared so little over the years about it, I was always forgetting the bank. </p><p></p><p>My mother responded she had moved the money to the trust and it would be disbursed from there. </p><p></p><p>I knew what that meant. She had changed her mind. My mother never kept a promise. She always felt that anything she could say, she could change. Just like that. Often she did not even remember, what she had said, what she had promised. She was always like this.</p><p></p><p>But this time she remembered. If she felt a moment's guilt I am glad. I doubt she did. Changing her mind was her right.</p><p></p><p>As much as I would want you to fight them...I am glad I never entered their little cesspool. Let your corrupt sister dirty herself by climbing down into the mud. While she smiles at everybody, all dressed in white. I see her as she is. Dirty.</p><p></p><p>Thank goodness D H was successful and you do not need what she is robbing. Your sister never forgets that. And it eats her up. That her acts of avarice cannot touch you. Like she wants.</p><p></p><p>I think yours is the worst sister of our little triumvirate. Mine might act worse but your sister's hypocrisy takes the cake.</p><p></p><p>My sister justifies what she does through her sense of entitlement and having been wronged.</p><p></p><p>Your sister seems almost criminal. Almost like a con artist, a grifter, with a smile and a cross. I am sorry Cedar. You deserve a better sister. You do not deserve what you got.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 661793, member: 18958"] If I understand this correctly, this is so ugly. If the intent of your father was to protect this child, to protect his son, your brother, and your sister chose to subvert this arrangement. To rob this child, to rob the protections to this child. To rob the assistance to your brother, to the extent that he would worry less and have a lesser burden. To the extent that a Christian Woman, who identifies with the ideals of Christ would plot such a thing, do such a thing....well, I do not want to even write what I think it is. Could well be. Do you think as well it is a way almost to create a new kind of identity...as someone who sees and says what she sees...to see yourself as such. Once it is out there...it is there for you to see yourself. To own it and to change more. For example, I am using the posts to write out what I feel about one thing or another. More and more I write from a strong point of view. I have seen abuse. I record what I have seen. I condemn what I see. Sometimes when I write I get afraid. I think that other people will get mad at me. Criticize me. I fear I look too strong. That my tone is too strident. Too forceful. I do it anyhow. I become a different sort of person, doing this. A person afraid to speak out but who does it anyhow. Each time I become stronger. I become a person who sees abuse, records it and condemns it. I begin to see myself as such, as no longer just a victim. As somebody with a voice. I feel strong. I feel sure. Cedar, I am appalled by your sister and your mother and what is happening about money. I am appalled this is happening to you. I hate that they can plot and plan and act in this way.... My sister did this and did influence my Mother to reverse a bequest to me. It was considerable, 100 k. I asked my Mother in the year before she died in what bank did she put the money. I cared so little over the years about it, I was always forgetting the bank. My mother responded she had moved the money to the trust and it would be disbursed from there. I knew what that meant. She had changed her mind. My mother never kept a promise. She always felt that anything she could say, she could change. Just like that. Often she did not even remember, what she had said, what she had promised. She was always like this. But this time she remembered. If she felt a moment's guilt I am glad. I doubt she did. Changing her mind was her right. As much as I would want you to fight them...I am glad I never entered their little cesspool. Let your corrupt sister dirty herself by climbing down into the mud. While she smiles at everybody, all dressed in white. I see her as she is. Dirty. Thank goodness D H was successful and you do not need what she is robbing. Your sister never forgets that. And it eats her up. That her acts of avarice cannot touch you. Like she wants. I think yours is the worst sister of our little triumvirate. Mine might act worse but your sister's hypocrisy takes the cake. My sister justifies what she does through her sense of entitlement and having been wronged. Your sister seems almost criminal. Almost like a con artist, a grifter, with a smile and a cross. I am sorry Cedar. You deserve a better sister. You do not deserve what you got. [/QUOTE]
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