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Hey, Cedar, or anyone interested in FOO (Family of Origin) issues. Cedar, WHY NOW???
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 662320" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>The Department of Rehabilitation <em>which I pushed </em>offered him a volunteer position at the Zoo. He seemed interested momentarily but did not pursue the opportunity. When I do not push him he does not follow through.</p><p></p><p>I have felt that a good job for him would be to work in the animal shelter. But how does <em>what I want </em>help me? Or him?</p><p></p><p>As recently as a year and a half ago, he would go to the library and read. I would ask him what he read, and he replied Physics. And I would ask him what he would study if he went back to college, and he said he would study Physics because to him <em>Physics explained everything.</em> Up to a year and a half ago he was living with friends who gave him a stable, secure and safe place to stay. In that environment he was still reading constructive things. I think everything depends upon this for him. Stability and security. And he seems unable to achieve this alone.</p><p></p><p>When I push him to think about college again (wrong) as alternatives to Physics he comes up with Philosophy, or even Anthropology as a 3rd choice.</p><p></p><p>The thing is that I think he no longer reads constructive things, and now reads mainly conspiracy theories or the news so that he can fit scary current events into his doomsday scenarios. He is as up to the date on the news as I am, but from this scary point of view he has adopted.</p><p></p><p>I believe that as long as he feels on the run in the streets or near them and afraid and defensive he will continue with this scary orientation. Because he is scared.</p><p></p><p><em>I hope</em> that if he gains security again, he will begin to study and read.</p><p></p><p>My son is a very good person. Very kind-hearted. Since childhood. That makes all of this so much more difficult and perplexing.</p><p></p><p>You should see him with our cat. When he talks to her he makes a clicking sound, so as to soothe and intrigue her. I just talk to her in words and sentences and we have conversations, her in her language, me in mine. Each of us feels understood. I do not feel the need to click.</p><p>Thank you SWOT for understanding. I do love him and those will be the first words from my mouth when he calls. I do hope he does soon.</p><p></p><p>Thank you SWOT for being here for me and listening to me about my son. I feel a sense of peace knowing that you are here. I am grateful to you.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 662320, member: 18958"] The Department of Rehabilitation [I]which I pushed [/I]offered him a volunteer position at the Zoo. He seemed interested momentarily but did not pursue the opportunity. When I do not push him he does not follow through. I have felt that a good job for him would be to work in the animal shelter. But how does [I]what I want [/I]help me? Or him? As recently as a year and a half ago, he would go to the library and read. I would ask him what he read, and he replied Physics. And I would ask him what he would study if he went back to college, and he said he would study Physics because to him [I]Physics explained everything.[/I] Up to a year and a half ago he was living with friends who gave him a stable, secure and safe place to stay. In that environment he was still reading constructive things. I think everything depends upon this for him. Stability and security. And he seems unable to achieve this alone. When I push him to think about college again (wrong) as alternatives to Physics he comes up with Philosophy, or even Anthropology as a 3rd choice. The thing is that I think he no longer reads constructive things, and now reads mainly conspiracy theories or the news so that he can fit scary current events into his doomsday scenarios. He is as up to the date on the news as I am, but from this scary point of view he has adopted. I believe that as long as he feels on the run in the streets or near them and afraid and defensive he will continue with this scary orientation. Because he is scared. [I]I hope[/I] that if he gains security again, he will begin to study and read. My son is a very good person. Very kind-hearted. Since childhood. That makes all of this so much more difficult and perplexing. You should see him with our cat. When he talks to her he makes a clicking sound, so as to soothe and intrigue her. I just talk to her in words and sentences and we have conversations, her in her language, me in mine. Each of us feels understood. I do not feel the need to click. Thank you SWOT for understanding. I do love him and those will be the first words from my mouth when he calls. I do hope he does soon. Thank you SWOT for being here for me and listening to me about my son. I feel a sense of peace knowing that you are here. I am grateful to you. COPA [/QUOTE]
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