The SA forum seems pretty quiet. I hope that is good news and that our difficult child's have all turned into little angels so there is no need to post.
Yeah, right. So I'll update about my difficult child who is definitely not turned into an angel. Her discharge date is now the 15th since I balked at paying for her to stay through the weekend and be discharged on a Monday (they don't discharge on weekends). There is no therapy happening on the weekend so I couldn't see the point of paying $1000 so she could stay an extra two days and be discharged on Monday. That would pay for a month at the halfway house.
difficult child is deciding this week which one she wants to go to. We told her it had to be recommended by the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or we wouldn't help with the costs. She didn't have a problem with that so I am waiting to hear which one so I can talk with the director. I have some very specific concerns that I want out in the open.
I still see some issues but I have to say that she has come far. When she first got there, she stated that she would absolutely not be getting a job down there (she has a job) and that she would not stay in Florida in a half-way house (she's now saying 3 - 6 months). She does have a sponsor who she is close to and spends a lot of time with her. The sponsor is 39 and has been sober for four years so I think that she is good role model for difficult child. difficult child has made a lot of friends through the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) that are now in sober houses.
I could list negatives like some recent attempts at manipulation but they told us that progress will not be linear (I love when I get to use a math term in real life lol). I have made my peace with the fact that I cannot make difficult child stay sober . . . it has to be something that she wants. So I have let go and will see what happens. It helps that she is in another state!
Keep good thoughts for us.
~Kathy
Yeah, right. So I'll update about my difficult child who is definitely not turned into an angel. Her discharge date is now the 15th since I balked at paying for her to stay through the weekend and be discharged on a Monday (they don't discharge on weekends). There is no therapy happening on the weekend so I couldn't see the point of paying $1000 so she could stay an extra two days and be discharged on Monday. That would pay for a month at the halfway house.
difficult child is deciding this week which one she wants to go to. We told her it had to be recommended by the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or we wouldn't help with the costs. She didn't have a problem with that so I am waiting to hear which one so I can talk with the director. I have some very specific concerns that I want out in the open.
I still see some issues but I have to say that she has come far. When she first got there, she stated that she would absolutely not be getting a job down there (she has a job) and that she would not stay in Florida in a half-way house (she's now saying 3 - 6 months). She does have a sponsor who she is close to and spends a lot of time with her. The sponsor is 39 and has been sober for four years so I think that she is good role model for difficult child. difficult child has made a lot of friends through the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) that are now in sober houses.
I could list negatives like some recent attempts at manipulation but they told us that progress will not be linear (I love when I get to use a math term in real life lol). I have made my peace with the fact that I cannot make difficult child stay sober . . . it has to be something that she wants. So I have let go and will see what happens. It helps that she is in another state!
Keep good thoughts for us.
~Kathy