Needing some support from the one place I know I will always get it. Last I wrote was that my former difficult child was purchasing a home and doing really well. Well.... the home fell through last minute and he has made some choices I'm not crazy about but maybe I'm looking at it the wrong way. I know I can always count on all of you to let me know if I am indeed looking at it the wrong way. He was only days away from closing on a beautiful mobile home in a beautiful park and the mortgage fell through. I felt really bad for him as he was so excited, but in hind site I think he may have been getting a little too over his head financially as his job at the hobby shop had been unstable practically since he started it, and there was always threat of it closing, plus his boss was a jerk. Yes, I said he WAS a jerk.... So easy child/former difficult child/are they ever really no longer a difficult child??? whatever!!!! who is still on suboxone going on two years calls me a few weeks ago to tell me he quit his job. At first I freaked, then felt it was the best thing for him, now his plan is dragging on a little to long and scaring me. He quit his job because he wants to and feels he has to come off the suboxone. He is ready. Anyway, his plan in doing this included needing a few weeks off of work, which his boss wouldn't ever give him a day never mind a few weeks, to come off the suboxone and he knows he won't feel well while doing this. His boss was really a jerk and because of this I've been telling him for close to two years to look for another job because he was getting nowhere fast at the hobby shop. The last time he needed off was to attend his sisters highschool graduation in June, gave notice of this for weeks that he needed to leave work by 4:00 and his boss didn't come in and relieve him until 5:15 so he walked up just after his sister received her diploma. This is the same boss who asked easy child and his girlfriend to watch there kids for a week while they went to the dominican repulic and then shut their cell phones off when they got there and they couldn't reach them the entire week, then told easy child and girlfriend it was a good life lesson for them????????? So, I agree he need to get out of there. I agree he needs to come off the suboxone. I agree he needs a new job. One with benefits and much better pay. But....now he has been out of work for 3 weeks and just starting the process of coming off the suboxone. I guess I thought he was going to do it right away and be out two weeks later actively looking for employment. I realize there is nothing I can do to change this and I try not to really worry about it, but I guess he's been doing well for so long, actually 2 years clean last month, that maybe I make too much out of something because I'm not used to this anymore. On one hand I'm trying to be very supportive of whatever he needs to do to successfully come off the suboxone without relapsing, and on the other hand I feel like I'm harassing him to hurry up and get back to work. Good thing he doesn't live with me anymore So what do you all think??