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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 415089" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Hi Last Hope, and welcome.</p><p></p><p>First off, I'm going to remind you that none of us are professionals and we can only offer you our suggestions based on our experiences. We bring our particular biases, based on those experiences, to the board. None of us have *the* answer, so take what you can use and skip the rest. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p>Having said that, I'm going to very respectfully disagree with- Midwest Mom re: her opinion on a psychiatrist who recommends Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for a 6-year-old. Six admits by the age of 6 to me indicates some very serious problems. I absolutely agree that personality disorders are not officially diagnosed in kids under 18, and I do question the usefulness of even bringing up the possibility in such a young kiddo (teens are a different story). Definitely, the family tree may is going to play into things - genetics can be a bear.</p><p></p><p>So... first things first. I think it's very important that you get a safety plan in place at home. For example, when my kid started really going off the rails around age 7-8, the plan was that I would move oldest to an unoccupied room (he's a quadriplegic), tell my youngest son to get my daughter and go lock themselves in my room, where I had a TV and toys for them, and I would deal with- thank you. Now, my youngest son was 4 at the time, and my daughter 1 - unfortunately, they had enough experience with- thank you's raging that they were more than willing to cooperate with- the safety plan. I'd restrain/contain thank you (was trained in restraints by his therapist) until he calmed or until it became apparent that it was time to call 911 for transport to local ER.</p><p></p><p>You need to lock up medications, cleansers, poisons, and sharp instruments. Remove items that can be used as weapons - heavy lamps, heavy toys (Matchbox cars *sting* when launched by a raging kid). Go over your house with an eye toward safety. </p><p></p><p>You need to get that application for respite in, like yesterday. You are not pawning your kid off on strangers. This is a marathon, and you absolutely *must* take care of yourself both physically and emotionally. I totally understand getting a break while he's hospitalized, but I guarantee you, it's not enough. You need to have time and space to breathe. Even if it's just a couple hours a month. Just as important, your other kids need a break from the chaos as well. Hindsight being 20/20, it's very very easy to lose sight of how all-consuming our difficult children can be for the entire family.</p><p></p><p>Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement is an individual decision, different for every family. I would never advocate for or against it to any given parent. I know it's the hardest decision we've ever made, and one I fought for a couple of years. I can't say that Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement "helped" my son, but without a doubt, it saved my other kids (and me) from his abuse. You will know if/when it's time.</p><p></p><p>I think finding a good advocate to help tune up the IEP is an excellent idea, especially if Residential Treatment Center (RTC) funding has to come thru the school and you think it might ever be a possible option for you. Wrightslaw.com has some excellent info for parents just learning about IDEA. Our Special Education forum and archives also have some good info.</p><p></p><p>How was his early development? Any delays, or any advanced development? I'm guessing his behaviors are severely impacting his K experience, but does he seem to be getting academic concepts in school? I agree that possibly a second professional opinion might be helpful - neuropsychologist or a certified child & adolescent psychiatrist. Do you think any of his medications have made an impact on his behaviors?</p><p></p><p>Anyway - again, welcome and I'm glad you found us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 415089, member: 8"] Hi Last Hope, and welcome. First off, I'm going to remind you that none of us are professionals and we can only offer you our suggestions based on our experiences. We bring our particular biases, based on those experiences, to the board. None of us have *the* answer, so take what you can use and skip the rest. :winking: Having said that, I'm going to very respectfully disagree with- Midwest Mom re: her opinion on a psychiatrist who recommends Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for a 6-year-old. Six admits by the age of 6 to me indicates some very serious problems. I absolutely agree that personality disorders are not officially diagnosed in kids under 18, and I do question the usefulness of even bringing up the possibility in such a young kiddo (teens are a different story). Definitely, the family tree may is going to play into things - genetics can be a bear. So... first things first. I think it's very important that you get a safety plan in place at home. For example, when my kid started really going off the rails around age 7-8, the plan was that I would move oldest to an unoccupied room (he's a quadriplegic), tell my youngest son to get my daughter and go lock themselves in my room, where I had a TV and toys for them, and I would deal with- thank you. Now, my youngest son was 4 at the time, and my daughter 1 - unfortunately, they had enough experience with- thank you's raging that they were more than willing to cooperate with- the safety plan. I'd restrain/contain thank you (was trained in restraints by his therapist) until he calmed or until it became apparent that it was time to call 911 for transport to local ER. You need to lock up medications, cleansers, poisons, and sharp instruments. Remove items that can be used as weapons - heavy lamps, heavy toys (Matchbox cars *sting* when launched by a raging kid). Go over your house with an eye toward safety. You need to get that application for respite in, like yesterday. You are not pawning your kid off on strangers. This is a marathon, and you absolutely *must* take care of yourself both physically and emotionally. I totally understand getting a break while he's hospitalized, but I guarantee you, it's not enough. You need to have time and space to breathe. Even if it's just a couple hours a month. Just as important, your other kids need a break from the chaos as well. Hindsight being 20/20, it's very very easy to lose sight of how all-consuming our difficult children can be for the entire family. Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement is an individual decision, different for every family. I would never advocate for or against it to any given parent. I know it's the hardest decision we've ever made, and one I fought for a couple of years. I can't say that Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement "helped" my son, but without a doubt, it saved my other kids (and me) from his abuse. You will know if/when it's time. I think finding a good advocate to help tune up the IEP is an excellent idea, especially if Residential Treatment Center (RTC) funding has to come thru the school and you think it might ever be a possible option for you. Wrightslaw.com has some excellent info for parents just learning about IDEA. Our Special Education forum and archives also have some good info. How was his early development? Any delays, or any advanced development? I'm guessing his behaviors are severely impacting his K experience, but does he seem to be getting academic concepts in school? I agree that possibly a second professional opinion might be helpful - neuropsychologist or a certified child & adolescent psychiatrist. Do you think any of his medications have made an impact on his behaviors? Anyway - again, welcome and I'm glad you found us. [/QUOTE]
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