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Hi I'm new, 6 y/o son has severe ODD (? CD)
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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 415316" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>I am sorry that life with your son - who as you say loves you and whom you love - has turned out to be so very hard.</p><p>I am a little confused about the medications he is on. You have explained that the medication that helps him sleep is very effective. But, for the rest, have you noticed that they help him and if so how? They don't seem to be making him less violent, for example. Getting the right medication seems to be a long and meticulous process, involving trial and error? Just to play devil's advocate (and I do not know the answer to this!), what would happen if you took him off medications altogether - would his behaviour be even worse?</p><p>Just a note about your understandable feeling of horror when he pretended to "shoot" people with his fingers from your car... I honestly don't feel that that in itself is all that abnormal or sinister. Little boys, and some little boys in particular, do need to "play" at violence and always have done, I think. My son regularly says to me "Hands up, I"m going to shoot you!" (in fun, not anger). But it doesn't make me think he has a future as an armed robber... He plays aggressively all the time, or rather pseudo-aggressively, but still understands that it is wrong to hurt people and seems to be able to modify his aggression so that it does not cross some limit. Most of the time.</p><p>There is something about violence that is very helpless, desperate. When your son smashed his brother in the face that was obviously very scary and I can only imagine how each one of you felt afterwards... But one senses your son's total frustration and lack of skill in expressing his feelings verbally or by other means... Do you have child therapists in the States who would work with your son in terms of developing his skills to react non-violently? Presuming that this is an option for your son and obviously without any knowledge of what is actually going on in his brain that makes him act like this...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 415316, member: 11227"] I am sorry that life with your son - who as you say loves you and whom you love - has turned out to be so very hard. I am a little confused about the medications he is on. You have explained that the medication that helps him sleep is very effective. But, for the rest, have you noticed that they help him and if so how? They don't seem to be making him less violent, for example. Getting the right medication seems to be a long and meticulous process, involving trial and error? Just to play devil's advocate (and I do not know the answer to this!), what would happen if you took him off medications altogether - would his behaviour be even worse? Just a note about your understandable feeling of horror when he pretended to "shoot" people with his fingers from your car... I honestly don't feel that that in itself is all that abnormal or sinister. Little boys, and some little boys in particular, do need to "play" at violence and always have done, I think. My son regularly says to me "Hands up, I"m going to shoot you!" (in fun, not anger). But it doesn't make me think he has a future as an armed robber... He plays aggressively all the time, or rather pseudo-aggressively, but still understands that it is wrong to hurt people and seems to be able to modify his aggression so that it does not cross some limit. Most of the time. There is something about violence that is very helpless, desperate. When your son smashed his brother in the face that was obviously very scary and I can only imagine how each one of you felt afterwards... But one senses your son's total frustration and lack of skill in expressing his feelings verbally or by other means... Do you have child therapists in the States who would work with your son in terms of developing his skills to react non-violently? Presuming that this is an option for your son and obviously without any knowledge of what is actually going on in his brain that makes him act like this... [/QUOTE]
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