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Hi~ new here and at my wits end with the school suspensions!
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<blockquote data-quote="rebelg" data-source="post: 342225" data-attributes="member: 8999"><p>I have heard that a child can not be out of school for suspensions more than 10 days of the school year, but does that count in two different school districts in the same year? He was suspended from school all for fighting, pushing, ruff housing, causing a threat to other students and recently cursing and stealing at the new school. The new school was a blessing when we first started there, they have a program called walking club where the children that can't control themselves/Impulses at recess (which mine definatly does) walk with a teacher during recess so they are constently supervised, I thought this was a miracle no one had thought of this yet I felt like crying I was so happy. This lasted 2 months, (aside from 1 incident that he was not suspended for) it was awsome I thought we were finally making some progress although my son was coming home everyday telling me "he didn't have friends at this new school and the kids were meaner, the kids curse all the time mom and no one wants to be my friend they all make fun of me" I was worried but I was happy too! finally he was going to a school and I wasn't getting phone calls everyday to come pick him up. </p><p> </p><p>Well now we are back to getting the suspensions every week my SO thinks we need to try a medication again, I say what about those 2 months??? Why could he behave himself then but not now? He thinks he was nervous/scared at the new school and that altered his behavior. Any way I def. think he has some kind of social issue going on here it's just like certin things don't connect for him like they do other kids he has alot more problems in social settings, at home he is by no means perfect, I still see things that are just not normal but is most of the time very manageable for me. He is very Smart but the impulsivness causes a big issue too at home and a school! Lying, stealing and doing things he knows are against the rules are issues. If he wants it or wants to do it he figures out how to do it the minute a back is turned Impulsively, No matter what consequenses or rewards he has he doesn't really care. Nothing works taking toys away doesn't work, taking video games and tv away doesn't work, extra chores doesn't work, writing sentenses doesn't work, rewards don't work I don't know what else to try....</p><p> </p><p>We got a referral to a childrens pyscologist they did an intake and thats when they said they didn't think he had ADHD they thought he had ODD and started him on behavior therepy I think possibly because I said at that time I was tired of trying different medications. So he has Never actually seen a pyscolgist at all. The therepist says we need to break everything down for him so that he understand why the rules are there. I did notice a change immediatly in his face when I tried that the other day. I just can't take this pressure any more I dont' know what to do! Every year I keep hoping that he will get a little bit older and grow out of this but of course thats not happening, I recently have started to thinking about different issues like foods/allergies/enlarged adnoieds/sleep problems and the effects. Does anyone have an opinion on that??? I will try asking for a meeting with a pyscologist at the next meeting but how do pyscologists feel about these issues? Does anyone have any experience with this stuff?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rebelg, post: 342225, member: 8999"] I have heard that a child can not be out of school for suspensions more than 10 days of the school year, but does that count in two different school districts in the same year? He was suspended from school all for fighting, pushing, ruff housing, causing a threat to other students and recently cursing and stealing at the new school. The new school was a blessing when we first started there, they have a program called walking club where the children that can't control themselves/Impulses at recess (which mine definatly does) walk with a teacher during recess so they are constently supervised, I thought this was a miracle no one had thought of this yet I felt like crying I was so happy. This lasted 2 months, (aside from 1 incident that he was not suspended for) it was awsome I thought we were finally making some progress although my son was coming home everyday telling me "he didn't have friends at this new school and the kids were meaner, the kids curse all the time mom and no one wants to be my friend they all make fun of me" I was worried but I was happy too! finally he was going to a school and I wasn't getting phone calls everyday to come pick him up. Well now we are back to getting the suspensions every week my SO thinks we need to try a medication again, I say what about those 2 months??? Why could he behave himself then but not now? He thinks he was nervous/scared at the new school and that altered his behavior. Any way I def. think he has some kind of social issue going on here it's just like certin things don't connect for him like they do other kids he has alot more problems in social settings, at home he is by no means perfect, I still see things that are just not normal but is most of the time very manageable for me. He is very Smart but the impulsivness causes a big issue too at home and a school! Lying, stealing and doing things he knows are against the rules are issues. If he wants it or wants to do it he figures out how to do it the minute a back is turned Impulsively, No matter what consequenses or rewards he has he doesn't really care. Nothing works taking toys away doesn't work, taking video games and tv away doesn't work, extra chores doesn't work, writing sentenses doesn't work, rewards don't work I don't know what else to try.... We got a referral to a childrens pyscologist they did an intake and thats when they said they didn't think he had ADHD they thought he had ODD and started him on behavior therepy I think possibly because I said at that time I was tired of trying different medications. So he has Never actually seen a pyscolgist at all. The therepist says we need to break everything down for him so that he understand why the rules are there. I did notice a change immediatly in his face when I tried that the other day. I just can't take this pressure any more I dont' know what to do! Every year I keep hoping that he will get a little bit older and grow out of this but of course thats not happening, I recently have started to thinking about different issues like foods/allergies/enlarged adnoieds/sleep problems and the effects. Does anyone have an opinion on that??? I will try asking for a meeting with a pyscologist at the next meeting but how do pyscologists feel about these issues? Does anyone have any experience with this stuff? [/QUOTE]
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