Hello: I am brand new. I found this site after having a HUGE power struggle with my eleven year old daughter. I've been dealing with what I believe to be ODD for several years. I'm at my wit's end, and I'm starting to think that I'm a horrible parent. The stress and anxiety this causes me on an almost daily basis is really starting to affect my ability to cope. My daughter has been oppositional since she was about five years old. She does not ever listen to what she's told by me. We end up arguing, she argues and purposely defies me at every turn. No amount of punishment makes a dent, she is mean to our animals, and for the most part doesn't care about anything. She refused to go to school today, and I had to physically yank her out of bed and dress her while she kicked and screamed, telling me I was a bi*** and a retard. She is exceptionally smart, and it's heartbreaking to watch her waste her intelligence like this. Instead of using her intelligence for good, she uses it to manipulate, lie, and steal. She says that everyone at school hates her, and I feel that she is partly responsible for this. It's getting harder to have any sympathy for her because she treats me badly. I need support and hope to find answers. I can't go on like this much longer.