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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 523662" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>You have a serious problem on your hands since hub is not seeing what is plainly there to see. Im appalled that he took your stepson's behavior out on the daycare center. I work at a Head Start and we take behavior problems and try to help. There are some that do not respond anyway, as much as we try, even if they have their own aids. Sometimes OTHER kids get hurt because of them (we have a biter and many who just go around, say, poking eyes and laughing, etc). This is NOT the fault of the day care. Most of the kids who attend the center are perfectly nice, normal little kids. It is the same kids who hurt other kids, over and over again, and some seem to be doing it viciously. I don't know if they mean to be vicious, but some laugh when they make another child cry...</p><p></p><p>I learned something about the three big red flags for children who have no conscience and may end up as antisocial as adults. We learned this when we adopted our child who could not safely live in a family: The triad of behaviors are 1/peeing or pooping or both inappropriately 2/ cruelty to animals 3/a fascination with or playing with fire. One of those alone is not on the triad, but put them together and they are very serious. (I hope you actually don't have pets...our adopted son used to abuse the pets and even killed two, but he didn't do it around us. He acted loving toward them when we were around). </p><p></p><p>If you want to stay with your hub and help the boys, in my opinion he has to get on board that something is very wrong with this son's and be willing to take strong measures to try and help them...and not blame other people. Also, you have to realize that you will probably never live The Brady Bunch family and that the boys will continue to have issues, although maybe they will improve with intensive treatment. </p><p></p><p>You are in a terrible situation and I don't envy you. And nobody can make the decision about what you do except for you, however I don't t hink most of us would judge you regardless of your decision. You do have a son who is going to live in this chaos if you remain...and, if it were me, I'd be thinking about him first. (((Hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 523662, member: 1550"] You have a serious problem on your hands since hub is not seeing what is plainly there to see. Im appalled that he took your stepson's behavior out on the daycare center. I work at a Head Start and we take behavior problems and try to help. There are some that do not respond anyway, as much as we try, even if they have their own aids. Sometimes OTHER kids get hurt because of them (we have a biter and many who just go around, say, poking eyes and laughing, etc). This is NOT the fault of the day care. Most of the kids who attend the center are perfectly nice, normal little kids. It is the same kids who hurt other kids, over and over again, and some seem to be doing it viciously. I don't know if they mean to be vicious, but some laugh when they make another child cry... I learned something about the three big red flags for children who have no conscience and may end up as antisocial as adults. We learned this when we adopted our child who could not safely live in a family: The triad of behaviors are 1/peeing or pooping or both inappropriately 2/ cruelty to animals 3/a fascination with or playing with fire. One of those alone is not on the triad, but put them together and they are very serious. (I hope you actually don't have pets...our adopted son used to abuse the pets and even killed two, but he didn't do it around us. He acted loving toward them when we were around). If you want to stay with your hub and help the boys, in my opinion he has to get on board that something is very wrong with this son's and be willing to take strong measures to try and help them...and not blame other people. Also, you have to realize that you will probably never live The Brady Bunch family and that the boys will continue to have issues, although maybe they will improve with intensive treatment. You are in a terrible situation and I don't envy you. And nobody can make the decision about what you do except for you, however I don't t hink most of us would judge you regardless of your decision. You do have a son who is going to live in this chaos if you remain...and, if it were me, I'd be thinking about him first. (((Hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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