My difficult child is driving me mad. EVERYTHING is a battle all the time. She is aggressive,unorganized and seems to be getting harder to handle everyday. I have an appointment to take her to get tested at the end of April I am just so tired and that seems so far away. We have tried everything. Bribery, Charts, rewards, elimination diets, Clonidine makes her sleepy but that is all it seems to do, more activities, less activities. her room is bare aside from her bed and a single toy right now, time-outs, Spankings My husband spanks it causes us to argue and she just screams louder kick her door harder and the tantrum lasts for another 45 minutes. We had to leave church this morning because she kept sneaking out of Sunday school and then was being disruptive so I could not keep her with me I finally gave up and we came home. Where she proceeded to have 3 meltdowns each lasting over an hour, two of those involved throwing herself at the door,kicking the door spitting, making herself drool and screaming at the top of her lungs, my husband spanked her which increased the volume of the screaming and changed the door kicking to laying in the floor beating the floor with hands and feet then getting on the bed and screaming while biting/chewing her comforter. Friday night she slipped out of the building during cheer-leading awards/celebration and went outside in the parking lot alone in the dark and the rain. Saturday evening she refused to participate in her final cheer-leading/game and after a meltdown we left. We had to run by the consignment shop where she peed on herself and in the floor which did not seem to bother her at all as she ever so nonchalantly walks up to me to tell me she peed all over herself and the floor, I had to purchase new pants and change her so we could go home without getting her booster wet. We don't have a diagnosis yet . The school has been very helpful but I feel for her poor teacher whom she loves but seems bent on driving crazy. I am at my wits end and sat in the church nursery today and cried after they told me they just can't handle her in the Sunday school class .