Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by babyblue31, Jun 3, 2008.

  1. babyblue31

    babyblue31 New Member

    Things today is a little more tring with difficult child.. He got up this morning, but didn't wake me up.. So when I got up he had all the xbox 360 games down and out of there cases.. He had to get a chair, climb up on it to the top of our 50 in. t.v. to get them, that really scared me, Because he could have fallen and gotten really hurt.. Now he's running around acting like a fool and I'm at wits end... I'm in alot of pain myself today.. Probly from the cleaning I did yesterday.. I'm so tired!!!!
  2. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    It sounds as though you need to put an alarm on his door so that when he comes out of his room you will wake up.
  3. Andy

    Andy Active Member

    Hi BabyBlue,

    You can hang a bell on his door so maybe you can hear when he opens it.

    Do you have a daily schedule? I hate structure but I do know that kids thrive when there is a structured schedule. Maybe try one for a few weeks to see how it goes:

    8:00 - 8:30 Breakfast - your son either helps set the table or sits on a chair and visit with you while you get breakfast ready. You can explain to him each step of preparation and perhaps there is something he can help with (like pouring the water into the pancake mix). After you eat, include his help in clean up.

    8:30 - 9:00 Exercise time - take a walk, dance, stretches, ect.

    9:00 - 9:30 Play time with mom. Have a plan - find an educational game to play - something to learn colors, counting, ect.

    9:30 - 10:30 Chore time - vacuum, laundry, whatever. I know with a young helper chores take a lot longer, however, if you don't have anywhere to go what's the hurry any way?

    10:30 Snack - make this very nutritional - fruit, yogurt, ect.

    10:45 - 11:15 Play time with mom - more educational play

    11:15 - 12:00 Free time - though try to have something out for him - playdough, coloring book, pots and pans to make music with, ect. He is overwhelmed with his choices so each day give him something different. This is your time to do your own cleaning or start lunch.

    12:00 - 12:30 Lunch time - like breakfast, include him whenever you can -

    12:30 Clean up from lunch

    1:00 Nap time (or quiet time reading books, watching a children's show, ect.

    2:00 - 3:00 Free time - just like 11:15 - 12:00

    3:00 - 4:00 Errand time - shopping, etc.

    4:00 - 5:00 Chore Time

    5:00 - 6:00 play time with mom - educational play

    6:00 - 7:00 Supper time

    7:00 - 7:30 Free time

    7:30 prepare for bed

    This is just a sample schedule - each person has to make their own schedule to really work. Everyone's day is different. It gives you an idea of what I am talking about.

    When I taught babysitting clinics, I would tell the kids that the more time they spend doing something with their charges, the less trouble the charges will get into. However, as a parent, we also want our kids to learn to entertain themselves not only for our sanity but it is a life skill kids need to learn.

    Young children need help in entertaining themselves - they need us to give them ideas. So start free time with one suggestion and after awhile, you can give a choice of two activities.
  4. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    GREAT ideas! I wish I'd had someone suggest that when my son was younger ...
    I hope tomorrow is calmer.