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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 629732" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>In our situations...there was a time when compassion meant to take responsibility, to "fix" the out of balance situation. I spent myself understanding the other person's perspective. I felt it was right to back away from my anger at what seemed unfair. </p><p></p><p>Our situations with our kids are intense. </p><p></p><p>The battle for me gets to be that letting go, that doing nothing, that not helping when the consequences of the choices one of my kids have made are so hard...I wonder sometimes whether I am justifying taking the easy way out. </p><p></p><p>A decision not to help; a decision to trust that there is a pattern and a meaning I cannot see....</p><p></p><p>Intellectually, I have decided to hand responsibility for where my adult children are in their lives to them. Intellectually, I understand that at this point in their lives, taking responsibility for themselves is the vitally important thing that needs to happen, next.</p><p></p><p>"...the defensive needs of the False Self...."</p><p></p><p>There are some things happening this morning that I will post about in another thread. </p><p></p><p>This posting was helpful to me this morning, COM. </p><p></p><p>Thank you.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 629732, member: 17461"] In our situations...there was a time when compassion meant to take responsibility, to "fix" the out of balance situation. I spent myself understanding the other person's perspective. I felt it was right to back away from my anger at what seemed unfair. Our situations with our kids are intense. The battle for me gets to be that letting go, that doing nothing, that not helping when the consequences of the choices one of my kids have made are so hard...I wonder sometimes whether I am justifying taking the easy way out. A decision not to help; a decision to trust that there is a pattern and a meaning I cannot see.... Intellectually, I have decided to hand responsibility for where my adult children are in their lives to them. Intellectually, I understand that at this point in their lives, taking responsibility for themselves is the vitally important thing that needs to happen, next. "...the defensive needs of the False Self...." There are some things happening this morning that I will post about in another thread. This posting was helpful to me this morning, COM. Thank you. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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