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<blockquote data-quote="WearyWoman" data-source="post: 386022"><p>Daisy - I have seen the recent news stories, and I understand the reaction. I personally can't stand ANY sort of behavior that violates the rights of others. To say that I am extremely and utterly disappointed and ashamed of my son's behavior is an understatement. This type of behavior has been going on in the locker room for a long time, and it would be a relief to see more preventative measures in place, i.e. supervision.</p><p> </p><p>Midwest - I am very bothered by the duct tape. They duct-taped the boy's hands behind his back. Where did JT get this idea? Older boys on the team previously did the EXACT same thing to him and others on the team. He is repeating the same thing that happened to him. I am so upset about it. I never understood how a person could inflict on another the same unwanted behavior previously inflicted on him by another. It doesn't make sense to me. But now, I see how it's almost a culture of survival - do it before someone else does it to you.</p><p> </p><p>As I mentioned before, this type of behavior has been modeled on the team by the upper classmen for years. Now, of course, when a parent (teacher, no less) complains, the school blames all of its problems on one kid. This should have been dealt with all along. Instead, it's a reactionary policy of doing something only when the pressure is on. We told the coach our son was being sworn at, humiliated, threatened, and hazed a couple of years ago, and other than a talking to, I don't think the boys involved received any consequences whatsoever. In hindsight, I wish we had pursued this further, but JT begged us not to tell anyone, since "snitches end up with stitches", as he said.</p><p> </p><p>JT isn't the only boy involved. A lot of kids on the team have been doing this. Nobody has ever been disciplined before. I think it's a lot easier to blame JT for everything than to look at the situation and focus on the school's responsibility for supervision and prevention in general.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WearyWoman, post: 386022"] Daisy - I have seen the recent news stories, and I understand the reaction. I personally can't stand ANY sort of behavior that violates the rights of others. To say that I am extremely and utterly disappointed and ashamed of my son's behavior is an understatement. This type of behavior has been going on in the locker room for a long time, and it would be a relief to see more preventative measures in place, i.e. supervision. Midwest - I am very bothered by the duct tape. They duct-taped the boy's hands behind his back. Where did JT get this idea? Older boys on the team previously did the EXACT same thing to him and others on the team. He is repeating the same thing that happened to him. I am so upset about it. I never understood how a person could inflict on another the same unwanted behavior previously inflicted on him by another. It doesn't make sense to me. But now, I see how it's almost a culture of survival - do it before someone else does it to you. As I mentioned before, this type of behavior has been modeled on the team by the upper classmen for years. Now, of course, when a parent (teacher, no less) complains, the school blames all of its problems on one kid. This should have been dealt with all along. Instead, it's a reactionary policy of doing something only when the pressure is on. We told the coach our son was being sworn at, humiliated, threatened, and hazed a couple of years ago, and other than a talking to, I don't think the boys involved received any consequences whatsoever. In hindsight, I wish we had pursued this further, but JT begged us not to tell anyone, since "snitches end up with stitches", as he said. JT isn't the only boy involved. A lot of kids on the team have been doing this. Nobody has ever been disciplined before. I think it's a lot easier to blame JT for everything than to look at the situation and focus on the school's responsibility for supervision and prevention in general. [/QUOTE]
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