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<blockquote data-quote="WearyWoman" data-source="post: 386099"><p>Midwest - Yes, we've thought of Asperger's, but he truly doesn't meet the criteria. His lapses in judgment and obsession with mechanical things, hunting, and fishing, seem to occur in isolation from anything else. And, the social issues are nowhere near significant enough to make the diagnosis. It seems that his ADHD causes quite severe impulsivity and that leads to poor decision making in the moment. After the fact, he is usually remorseful. Of course, that's too late to change anything.</p><p> </p><p>Marg - I appreciate your thoughts. If I can put aside how upset I am right now at difficult child, I can see that while he did something very wrong, he is a <strong><em>part</em></strong> of the problem, not necessarily <strong><em>the</em></strong> problem. And, I that's what I think you were saying in your post. The principal's response was another threatening/bullying type act, and that is exactly what we don't want modeled for JT. Everyone is saying one thing and either doing or allowing another. No wonder this problem continues for the school. It will continue years into the future if they don't address it once and for all. I agree that a team intervention is needed. We really like the coach, and we surely don't want to give him any grief about how he manages the team. That's probably caused our hesitation more than anything. husband is calling the school tomorrow. I'm SO glad he can calmly handle this type of situation because I get so worked up just thinking about it, and it is so hard for me to be assertive. Going forward, I'm afraid JT will be a "marked man", so to speak and that a future disciplinary action is inevitable. I understand that his behavior was unacceptable, but I sure wish people could better understand that these kids need help and guidance. Even though they make mistakes, they are still valuable human beings with a potential for successful lives.</p><p> </p><p>It hurts so much knowing he'll never be a easy child. I sometimes dream about what that might be like for him and for us. Yet, his disabilities get in the way, and since no one else can see them, they don't understand him. And without understanding, there is very little compassion for him or for us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WearyWoman, post: 386099"] Midwest - Yes, we've thought of Asperger's, but he truly doesn't meet the criteria. His lapses in judgment and obsession with mechanical things, hunting, and fishing, seem to occur in isolation from anything else. And, the social issues are nowhere near significant enough to make the diagnosis. It seems that his ADHD causes quite severe impulsivity and that leads to poor decision making in the moment. After the fact, he is usually remorseful. Of course, that's too late to change anything. Marg - I appreciate your thoughts. If I can put aside how upset I am right now at difficult child, I can see that while he did something very wrong, he is a [B][I]part[/I][/B] of the problem, not necessarily [B][I]the[/I][/B] problem. And, I that's what I think you were saying in your post. The principal's response was another threatening/bullying type act, and that is exactly what we don't want modeled for JT. Everyone is saying one thing and either doing or allowing another. No wonder this problem continues for the school. It will continue years into the future if they don't address it once and for all. I agree that a team intervention is needed. We really like the coach, and we surely don't want to give him any grief about how he manages the team. That's probably caused our hesitation more than anything. husband is calling the school tomorrow. I'm SO glad he can calmly handle this type of situation because I get so worked up just thinking about it, and it is so hard for me to be assertive. Going forward, I'm afraid JT will be a "marked man", so to speak and that a future disciplinary action is inevitable. I understand that his behavior was unacceptable, but I sure wish people could better understand that these kids need help and guidance. Even though they make mistakes, they are still valuable human beings with a potential for successful lives. It hurts so much knowing he'll never be a easy child. I sometimes dream about what that might be like for him and for us. Yet, his disabilities get in the way, and since no one else can see them, they don't understand him. And without understanding, there is very little compassion for him or for us. [/QUOTE]
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