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<blockquote data-quote="elizabrary" data-source="post: 419273" data-attributes="member: 11235"><p>Kat is the master (or one of them- I think many others have parents on here!) at manipulation and finding people who are willing to buy her stories. She once told IG's mother I had put her and KK (just weeks old at the time) out on the street in the middle of the night with multiple inches of snow on the the ground. The truth- I told her she could only continue to stay at my house if she followed my rules (namely no contact with her abuser), otherwise she could go. She left. She has told people horrendous stories of how I treat her. Those who know me don't fall for it. Others have taken her in, given her money, given her rides, babysitting, you name it. I don't intervene because I know what will happen- she will eventually use them up and burn that bridge. It's very hard for me to watch because these are not the values I raised her with- I am almost crazy about doing for myself and not asking for help. But she is an adult and these are her choices. Getting involved almost always turns out bad and causes drama. I try to avoid it at all costs, and it is hard, especially with the baby involved.</p><p> </p><p>Stay strong and practice detachment. The more you practice the better you get. And focus on you- do what makes you feel happy and healthy rather than trying to make your difficult child happy and healthy. Turning that focus around to myself has been my key to sanity and survivial.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elizabrary, post: 419273, member: 11235"] Kat is the master (or one of them- I think many others have parents on here!) at manipulation and finding people who are willing to buy her stories. She once told IG's mother I had put her and KK (just weeks old at the time) out on the street in the middle of the night with multiple inches of snow on the the ground. The truth- I told her she could only continue to stay at my house if she followed my rules (namely no contact with her abuser), otherwise she could go. She left. She has told people horrendous stories of how I treat her. Those who know me don't fall for it. Others have taken her in, given her money, given her rides, babysitting, you name it. I don't intervene because I know what will happen- she will eventually use them up and burn that bridge. It's very hard for me to watch because these are not the values I raised her with- I am almost crazy about doing for myself and not asking for help. But she is an adult and these are her choices. Getting involved almost always turns out bad and causes drama. I try to avoid it at all costs, and it is hard, especially with the baby involved. Stay strong and practice detachment. The more you practice the better you get. And focus on you- do what makes you feel happy and healthy rather than trying to make your difficult child happy and healthy. Turning that focus around to myself has been my key to sanity and survivial. [/QUOTE]
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