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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 439804" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>She can do PERMANENT damage to him, some of which may not show up for years. My bro had ear problems. Then the day he returned after ear surgery his teacher (3rd gr) lifted him up out of his chair by that ear. I know because I heard him scream from down the hall and ran to see him with blood coming out of his ear and the teacher telling him he couldn't call home. Years later he has hearing damage from it. Some is from music too loud, but it started far earlier than it should and some things that happened were caused by that assault.</p><p></p><p>Head blows can cause brain injuries. We are learning more and more about them. She can actually cause damage and scars on his brain that could accumulate and eventually stop his development in one or more areas. Or weaken areas of his brain that may have problems and actually kill him. A hard enough blow to a child's brain is NOT hard for even a small adult to do. It doesn't have to be a frying pan to the head.</p><p></p><p>Head blows also can cause serious neck issues. Head blows cause soft tissue damage and he may develop neck problems that might LOOK like tense muscles from overuse. But in reality the blows could injure how the muscles attach to the vertebrae and to other bones and cause tears, even cause him to rupture a disc if it happened hard enough and often enough.</p><p></p><p>And that is just the physical stuff. in my opinion he is already acting abused. NO CHILD should be beaten. He shoudl NOT cower in fear from an adult, not at age 4. Trust me, I had a very difficult 4yo. Into EVERYTHING, incredibly intelligent and super stubborn. he was already violent with his little sis by age 5. The ONLY thing hitting him EVER accomplished was for him to think that if you are bigger you can hit anyone who upsets you. Well, not true. The times when I smacked his hand for trying to touch the stove he did learn to never do that. Ditto a swat on a diapered bottom for trying to run itno a busy street. For those things, they got his attention enough to let me get through his thoughts to make a lasting impression. But he NEVER cowered from me over that. </p><p></p><p>You MUST talk to the teacher. What are the laws about hitting children in schools in your area of France? Quite frankly, you may have to go to the headmaster or principal and raise a fuss. Yes, it won't be fun and the neighbors may be upset. But i would rather have neighbors angry at me than have my child cowering in fear of a teacher. </p><p></p><p>I really do NOT CARE what else she does for him. SHE IS ABUSING HIM. Flat out. It is what it is. IF the aide would lose her job for hitting a child, how come the teacher wouldn't and how would YOU be the bad guy for complaining? How many other children is she abusing? Can you put some sort of recorder on him and not tell anyone (including him) and get video of her hitting him or threatening to? We have nannycams that are cameras embedded in toys or other household items so that no one can see that it is a camera. many people use them to be sure the nanny or sitter is not abusing the child when the parents are gone. Maybe you could get a cheap spy camera inside a button or a lapel pin that you could put on his shirt. Or arrange to have in the room somewhere with his things so that the entire room could be video recorded? I wouldn't care about legal at that point - I would want to know what she is doing to my child.</p><p></p><p>There really seems to be something wrong with the town you live in. I don't know if it is France or jsut this place. I know you have mentioned moving. IS this a real possibility for you? Given this abuse, it really might be a wise idea. If you stay there this is likely to get worse. Because he will likely become more outspoken as he gets older. </p><p></p><p>No teacher who strikes children about the head or pulls their ears is a good teacher. It doesn't matter what else she does, she is teaching fear and that makes her a bad teacher. Now if she chooses to learn to stop, to control her anger and use safer, more humane methods to keep her classroom in line, well, she might become a good teacher. Good teachers do not make students cower in fear and toss their arms up to shield themselves.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 439804, member: 1233"] She can do PERMANENT damage to him, some of which may not show up for years. My bro had ear problems. Then the day he returned after ear surgery his teacher (3rd gr) lifted him up out of his chair by that ear. I know because I heard him scream from down the hall and ran to see him with blood coming out of his ear and the teacher telling him he couldn't call home. Years later he has hearing damage from it. Some is from music too loud, but it started far earlier than it should and some things that happened were caused by that assault. Head blows can cause brain injuries. We are learning more and more about them. She can actually cause damage and scars on his brain that could accumulate and eventually stop his development in one or more areas. Or weaken areas of his brain that may have problems and actually kill him. A hard enough blow to a child's brain is NOT hard for even a small adult to do. It doesn't have to be a frying pan to the head. Head blows also can cause serious neck issues. Head blows cause soft tissue damage and he may develop neck problems that might LOOK like tense muscles from overuse. But in reality the blows could injure how the muscles attach to the vertebrae and to other bones and cause tears, even cause him to rupture a disc if it happened hard enough and often enough. And that is just the physical stuff. in my opinion he is already acting abused. NO CHILD should be beaten. He shoudl NOT cower in fear from an adult, not at age 4. Trust me, I had a very difficult 4yo. Into EVERYTHING, incredibly intelligent and super stubborn. he was already violent with his little sis by age 5. The ONLY thing hitting him EVER accomplished was for him to think that if you are bigger you can hit anyone who upsets you. Well, not true. The times when I smacked his hand for trying to touch the stove he did learn to never do that. Ditto a swat on a diapered bottom for trying to run itno a busy street. For those things, they got his attention enough to let me get through his thoughts to make a lasting impression. But he NEVER cowered from me over that. You MUST talk to the teacher. What are the laws about hitting children in schools in your area of France? Quite frankly, you may have to go to the headmaster or principal and raise a fuss. Yes, it won't be fun and the neighbors may be upset. But i would rather have neighbors angry at me than have my child cowering in fear of a teacher. I really do NOT CARE what else she does for him. SHE IS ABUSING HIM. Flat out. It is what it is. IF the aide would lose her job for hitting a child, how come the teacher wouldn't and how would YOU be the bad guy for complaining? How many other children is she abusing? Can you put some sort of recorder on him and not tell anyone (including him) and get video of her hitting him or threatening to? We have nannycams that are cameras embedded in toys or other household items so that no one can see that it is a camera. many people use them to be sure the nanny or sitter is not abusing the child when the parents are gone. Maybe you could get a cheap spy camera inside a button or a lapel pin that you could put on his shirt. Or arrange to have in the room somewhere with his things so that the entire room could be video recorded? I wouldn't care about legal at that point - I would want to know what she is doing to my child. There really seems to be something wrong with the town you live in. I don't know if it is France or jsut this place. I know you have mentioned moving. IS this a real possibility for you? Given this abuse, it really might be a wise idea. If you stay there this is likely to get worse. Because he will likely become more outspoken as he gets older. No teacher who strikes children about the head or pulls their ears is a good teacher. It doesn't matter what else she does, she is teaching fear and that makes her a bad teacher. Now if she chooses to learn to stop, to control her anger and use safer, more humane methods to keep her classroom in line, well, she might become a good teacher. Good teachers do not make students cower in fear and toss their arms up to shield themselves. [/QUOTE]
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