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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 439924" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Hi Insane. School finishes for the summer at the end of next week... Unfortunately it is what they call a "single class" school. Which means that J would have this teacher for the next two years.</p><p>I've talked to two friends about this today - one English, one French, both with children in local schools. The English friend says that, based on the experience of her three children, this kind of thing is widespread and the French parents do not care and never complain. A different story from the French friend (and her mother!) who understood the difficulty of stirring things up as a foreigner in a village but said that it was illegal and that parents DID complain - they even felt that parents sometimes complain unreasonably. They were shocked, but not as shocked as the English friend... I'm seeing another friend tomorrow morning, whose son is at the same school - I want to ask her what she thinks. </p><p>The trouble is that speaking out about abuse really does something odd to people. When I saw the assistant to whom I spoke this morning, she kind of ignored me, when usually she gives a friendly greeting and chats. I felt I must say something to J about it, to make it clear that this is not acceptable and that I will protect him from it - so I said that "maitresse" was a very good maitresse but she shouldn't hit him on the head but I am going to speak to her and say she must not - he immediately said vehemently "No, no, she doesn't hit me!". At four years old, he instinctively understands the dynamics of secrecy...</p><p>I have decided I have to speak to her (so help me god!!) I cannot go in all guns blazing saying "What the hell are you doing?" But I am going to start the conversation by talking about hyperactivity, that with the child psychiatrist we are almost certain he has ADHD though no diagnosis will be given before age six, and that she has recommended that non-punitive approaches be taken, etc. In the context of that, I may bring up specifically hitting on the head if the conversation is going well and I am brave enough <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>I tried to sit and have a "clearing" about the best thing to do this afternoon. What came up was that running away to another entirely new place and school, though tempting, was not the best for J. I am going to give myself the next year to decide clearly what the next step is - where we settle. Time to organise, time to plan. No impulsive decisions. That said, emotionally I would love to get out of here tomorrow...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 439924, member: 11227"] Hi Insane. School finishes for the summer at the end of next week... Unfortunately it is what they call a "single class" school. Which means that J would have this teacher for the next two years. I've talked to two friends about this today - one English, one French, both with children in local schools. The English friend says that, based on the experience of her three children, this kind of thing is widespread and the French parents do not care and never complain. A different story from the French friend (and her mother!) who understood the difficulty of stirring things up as a foreigner in a village but said that it was illegal and that parents DID complain - they even felt that parents sometimes complain unreasonably. They were shocked, but not as shocked as the English friend... I'm seeing another friend tomorrow morning, whose son is at the same school - I want to ask her what she thinks. The trouble is that speaking out about abuse really does something odd to people. When I saw the assistant to whom I spoke this morning, she kind of ignored me, when usually she gives a friendly greeting and chats. I felt I must say something to J about it, to make it clear that this is not acceptable and that I will protect him from it - so I said that "maitresse" was a very good maitresse but she shouldn't hit him on the head but I am going to speak to her and say she must not - he immediately said vehemently "No, no, she doesn't hit me!". At four years old, he instinctively understands the dynamics of secrecy... I have decided I have to speak to her (so help me god!!) I cannot go in all guns blazing saying "What the hell are you doing?" But I am going to start the conversation by talking about hyperactivity, that with the child psychiatrist we are almost certain he has ADHD though no diagnosis will be given before age six, and that she has recommended that non-punitive approaches be taken, etc. In the context of that, I may bring up specifically hitting on the head if the conversation is going well and I am brave enough :) I tried to sit and have a "clearing" about the best thing to do this afternoon. What came up was that running away to another entirely new place and school, though tempting, was not the best for J. I am going to give myself the next year to decide clearly what the next step is - where we settle. Time to organise, time to plan. No impulsive decisions. That said, emotionally I would love to get out of here tomorrow... [/QUOTE]
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