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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 112361" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Um, it might be time to ask why the LAWYERS get a say in what is told to the children? Is it to preserve a case for future prosecution? Or what?</p><p></p><p>If it was my kids I would be heading to court with ALL the upsets that happen after his supervised visitation and ask for NO VISITATION, If not given my way I would be headed to the media. Not to expose the kids to scrutiny, but to put some pressure on the system to protect the kids!! </p><p></p><p>Can you take a day off an call around to find some counselling for the kids? They may not take insurance, but many will counsel free of charge in this situation.</p><p></p><p>I know it is very frustrating. And worrying. I am so sorry the youngest is acting out.</p><p></p><p>Has the youngest been evaluated to see if she was abused sexually? She may not tell. Her behavior says there is something going on.</p><p></p><p>Does the 9yo have an IEP, or one in progress? This is where the school evaluates and meets with parents and teachers to figure out a plan to help the child. If this is not in place, go to the Special Education Forum and ask there about getting one. The youngest NEEDS some kind of help.</p><p></p><p>Practically, for your life, put locks on doors. Your bedroom esp, and keep it locked and the key put up. You and her mom should have keys, that is it. Put anything you don't want broken in your room. Let the older 2 have locks on their doors (with keys) to protect their stuff. They, you and their mom should have keys.</p><p></p><p>Go to the bookstore and buy The Explosive Child by Ross Greene. It will help give a different understanding of the parenting difficult children often need. Also look at <a href="http://www.loveandlogic.com" target="_blank">http://www.loveandlogic.com</a> to see if this is something that would work for your family. We preferred love and logic, but Explosive Child was helpful. The website gives you an idea of what it is about, and lots of free downloads that are very helpful. Then you can get the books as you need them.</p><p></p><p>Sending hugs,</p><p></p><p>Susie</p><p></p><p>ps. Is there someone at the police dept or prosecutor's office you can contact to see what is going on? They should have a Victim's Rights Advocate, maybe that would help?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 112361, member: 1233"] Um, it might be time to ask why the LAWYERS get a say in what is told to the children? Is it to preserve a case for future prosecution? Or what? If it was my kids I would be heading to court with ALL the upsets that happen after his supervised visitation and ask for NO VISITATION, If not given my way I would be headed to the media. Not to expose the kids to scrutiny, but to put some pressure on the system to protect the kids!! Can you take a day off an call around to find some counselling for the kids? They may not take insurance, but many will counsel free of charge in this situation. I know it is very frustrating. And worrying. I am so sorry the youngest is acting out. Has the youngest been evaluated to see if she was abused sexually? She may not tell. Her behavior says there is something going on. Does the 9yo have an IEP, or one in progress? This is where the school evaluates and meets with parents and teachers to figure out a plan to help the child. If this is not in place, go to the Special Education Forum and ask there about getting one. The youngest NEEDS some kind of help. Practically, for your life, put locks on doors. Your bedroom esp, and keep it locked and the key put up. You and her mom should have keys, that is it. Put anything you don't want broken in your room. Let the older 2 have locks on their doors (with keys) to protect their stuff. They, you and their mom should have keys. Go to the bookstore and buy The Explosive Child by Ross Greene. It will help give a different understanding of the parenting difficult children often need. Also look at [url="http://www.loveandlogic.com"]http://www.loveandlogic.com[/url] to see if this is something that would work for your family. We preferred love and logic, but Explosive Child was helpful. The website gives you an idea of what it is about, and lots of free downloads that are very helpful. Then you can get the books as you need them. Sending hugs, Susie ps. Is there someone at the police dept or prosecutor's office you can contact to see what is going on? They should have a Victim's Rights Advocate, maybe that would help? [/QUOTE]
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