I would like to know how you guys handle it when your kido hits or pushes you?
Yesterday my hubby saw my oldest son hurting his younger brother 3 times and after telling him to stop it my son got very upset with his farther and ran towards him and pushed my husband in the stomach...luckily my husband is still very big and strong, but unfortunatly as a automatic reaction pushed my son back and he fell....I got very upset and it caused a big upset between me and hubby. My son dis appologized to hubby and my husband also appologized to him and both had a great evening.
But I told hubby I think he must rather try and prevent such a situation and if it happens try and ignore it and discuss alternatives later but son must still be punished like loosing preveleges. My husband said he will try, but he will not allow my son to hit us!!!!
Today when my husband were out my son wanted to go and swim at friends, but because I don t know the parents said its against the rules to swim at strangers...he got VERY upset, started crying, begging, screaming...I stayed calm and said no....my little son got very scared, even the dog got scared!!!! Then my son kicked me on the shins and later hit with his fist on my forarm....I grabbed both his hands and in a calm voice said I will not allow him to hurt me....And that he was grounded....this made him stop hurting me but it went over into a almost meltdown....crying, roling on the floor, rocking, exct.
Later I said we can get a DVD, then he tested the bounderies again, wanted to get something with age restriction higher than 16 yr...I didnt give in.....
I keep on making excuses for him saying he has AS, exct, but hubby say that he is still a normal boy as well that needs to learn that you cant go around hitting people!
Any advice will be great!?
Thanx
Yesterday my hubby saw my oldest son hurting his younger brother 3 times and after telling him to stop it my son got very upset with his farther and ran towards him and pushed my husband in the stomach...luckily my husband is still very big and strong, but unfortunatly as a automatic reaction pushed my son back and he fell....I got very upset and it caused a big upset between me and hubby. My son dis appologized to hubby and my husband also appologized to him and both had a great evening.
But I told hubby I think he must rather try and prevent such a situation and if it happens try and ignore it and discuss alternatives later but son must still be punished like loosing preveleges. My husband said he will try, but he will not allow my son to hit us!!!!
Today when my husband were out my son wanted to go and swim at friends, but because I don t know the parents said its against the rules to swim at strangers...he got VERY upset, started crying, begging, screaming...I stayed calm and said no....my little son got very scared, even the dog got scared!!!! Then my son kicked me on the shins and later hit with his fist on my forarm....I grabbed both his hands and in a calm voice said I will not allow him to hurt me....And that he was grounded....this made him stop hurting me but it went over into a almost meltdown....crying, roling on the floor, rocking, exct.
Later I said we can get a DVD, then he tested the bounderies again, wanted to get something with age restriction higher than 16 yr...I didnt give in.....
I keep on making excuses for him saying he has AS, exct, but hubby say that he is still a normal boy as well that needs to learn that you cant go around hitting people!
Any advice will be great!?
Thanx