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<blockquote data-quote="everywoman" data-source="post: 317170" data-attributes="member: 1436"><p>K---I'm sorry that you are still not getting the answers you want. It is so very hard to predict how difficult child will act when he gets out. You don't know. The people at Department of Juvenile Justice don't know. Even your difficult child doesn't know. With my difficult child I heard promises every time we brought him home. Fortunately, I understood those promises would be broken and therefore was not hurt when they were. He learned to talk the talk, but never quite grasped how to walk the walk. If our children are not willing to work on themselves first, then nothing in this world, no medications, no counseling, no parenting, no discipline, no punishment, no court will change them. My son is hardwired differently. I have learned to accept that. It makes me crazy at times, but after years and years of trying to fix him or find someone else to fix him or some drugs to fix him, I just had to let go and let him try to fix himself. He has been arrested 8X since he was 14. 6X have been as an adult. He believes the lies he tells himself. He doesn't like society's rules and has fought against following them. I maintain hope each time he is arrested that he will finally learn---I am pessimistically optimistic that one day he will change. I can't give up on him. He is my son and I love him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="everywoman, post: 317170, member: 1436"] K---I'm sorry that you are still not getting the answers you want. It is so very hard to predict how difficult child will act when he gets out. You don't know. The people at Department of Juvenile Justice don't know. Even your difficult child doesn't know. With my difficult child I heard promises every time we brought him home. Fortunately, I understood those promises would be broken and therefore was not hurt when they were. He learned to talk the talk, but never quite grasped how to walk the walk. If our children are not willing to work on themselves first, then nothing in this world, no medications, no counseling, no parenting, no discipline, no punishment, no court will change them. My son is hardwired differently. I have learned to accept that. It makes me crazy at times, but after years and years of trying to fix him or find someone else to fix him or some drugs to fix him, I just had to let go and let him try to fix himself. He has been arrested 8X since he was 14. 6X have been as an adult. He believes the lies he tells himself. He doesn't like society's rules and has fought against following them. I maintain hope each time he is arrested that he will finally learn---I am pessimistically optimistic that one day he will change. I can't give up on him. He is my son and I love him. [/QUOTE]
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