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Holey Moley...it's too confusin' & scarey
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 209540" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>As you all know easy child/difficult child is an alcoholic. That, of course, is the bad news.</p><p>The good news is that he has only had two blunts in eight months AND felt guilty and stupid for those two choices. That is a HUGE step forward.</p><p>He has deliberately set out to avoid all friends who may be involved in any criminal activity and calls for me to pick him up if there is no clean and sober ride. That also is HUGE.</p><p> </p><p>Some times we are convinced that he has had "normal" amounts of booze and yet is plastered. We attribute that to his brain surgery and Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) after effects. Recently there are changes in his behavior after partying. It's difficult to describe but in a nutshell he has two behavior changes. First</p><p>he comes to my room as he always has to let me know he is home BUT he</p><p>asks me to please come visit with him until he can go to sleep. He has a sofa in his bedroom and he wants me to bring my pillow/blanket and stay</p><p>with him until he is assleep. He has explained that he is afraid he will go</p><p>out or make poor choices if alone. Sometimes he believes things have happened that haven't OR he doesn't recognize it is me on the sofa.</p><p> </p><p>Last night he went out and had nothing to drink...zip. He came home and</p><p>asked me to come visit for awhile even though he was sober. He said himself "Mama I know this is weird but it's how I feel." I stayed until 1 or so and he was absolutely not awake when I left. At 3:30 I heard the door to the garage open, then the door to the driveway...and then the reverse</p><p>action right away. I popped up and as he came in the door to the kitchen</p><p>asked "what's going on son?" He asked "what do you mean?" I said "why did you get dressed and go outside?" He told me a story about having to go with a couple that came by to show them where somebody else was</p><p>"but I wasn't gone long and everything is ok".</p><p> </p><p>Today I had a talk with him. He doesn't remember that incident. It is not the first time he has "thought" something happened during the night or someone came to visit. I suggested that we talk to the psychiatrist about it when we go next month and he agreed. Sadly, he added "I have messed up my brain so much that maybe I am doing sleepwalking getting wrong signals from my brain." </p><p> </p><p>It is too confusing & scarey. He and I are very close but the lack of sleep and peace is not healthy for either of us. Having this happen when he was sober........has sobered me up and frightened me. Whine. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 209540, member: 35"] As you all know easy child/difficult child is an alcoholic. That, of course, is the bad news. The good news is that he has only had two blunts in eight months AND felt guilty and stupid for those two choices. That is a HUGE step forward. He has deliberately set out to avoid all friends who may be involved in any criminal activity and calls for me to pick him up if there is no clean and sober ride. That also is HUGE. Some times we are convinced that he has had "normal" amounts of booze and yet is plastered. We attribute that to his brain surgery and Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) after effects. Recently there are changes in his behavior after partying. It's difficult to describe but in a nutshell he has two behavior changes. First he comes to my room as he always has to let me know he is home BUT he asks me to please come visit with him until he can go to sleep. He has a sofa in his bedroom and he wants me to bring my pillow/blanket and stay with him until he is assleep. He has explained that he is afraid he will go out or make poor choices if alone. Sometimes he believes things have happened that haven't OR he doesn't recognize it is me on the sofa. Last night he went out and had nothing to drink...zip. He came home and asked me to come visit for awhile even though he was sober. He said himself "Mama I know this is weird but it's how I feel." I stayed until 1 or so and he was absolutely not awake when I left. At 3:30 I heard the door to the garage open, then the door to the driveway...and then the reverse action right away. I popped up and as he came in the door to the kitchen asked "what's going on son?" He asked "what do you mean?" I said "why did you get dressed and go outside?" He told me a story about having to go with a couple that came by to show them where somebody else was "but I wasn't gone long and everything is ok". Today I had a talk with him. He doesn't remember that incident. It is not the first time he has "thought" something happened during the night or someone came to visit. I suggested that we talk to the psychiatrist about it when we go next month and he agreed. Sadly, he added "I have messed up my brain so much that maybe I am doing sleepwalking getting wrong signals from my brain." It is too confusing & scarey. He and I are very close but the lack of sleep and peace is not healthy for either of us. Having this happen when he was sober........has sobered me up and frightened me. Whine. DDD [/QUOTE]
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