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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 262930"><p>Thank you.</p><p>The difficulty and hardship here is that I was a little unsure about what was the proper thing to do.</p><p>However, I felt that by giving difficult child a window of opportunity to make a correction and by being open and kind to her, it would help her understand that she was loved. Sometimes I feel low self esteem is at the root of much of this. Entitlement, as well. </p><p>Certain things that were said made it clear that she shows little or no remorse and barely understands why the family is upset with her.</p><p>I believe the main reason why she attempted to apologize was to come to get a nice dinner. She said at one point..."I am sorry I said what I said to the police officer." When I asked for more info...she said "I know you know what I said." Hmmmm</p><p>When I asked her why she was sorry, she wasn't sure. When I asked her if we could discuss the situation in more detail, she said "no." </p><p>When my son spoke with her, she came very close to admitting that she knew the boy was stealing...but came short of doing so.She is protecting him. That part bothers me. What bothers me even more, is telling the police officer that I fabricated information. UGH! She kinda gets that...but will only partially say so.</p><p>It was a little peculiar. Did she want the food? Did she want her family? That part is unclear. She didn't seem to value "family." She certainly wasn't willing to say that family had value. She spoke a little mysteriously and had a lot of anger that the police were called. She didn't think the boy should be held accountable for his actions and doesn't see where she did anything wrong either. She did not want to have a real conversation about it or make a full, sincere apology.</p><p>I called her up at the very end of the day before bed and asked her if she had thought about all that had transpired. She said "yes." </p><p>"My family is mean and doesn't want me to eat Easter dinner with them."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 262930"] Thank you. The difficulty and hardship here is that I was a little unsure about what was the proper thing to do. However, I felt that by giving difficult child a window of opportunity to make a correction and by being open and kind to her, it would help her understand that she was loved. Sometimes I feel low self esteem is at the root of much of this. Entitlement, as well. Certain things that were said made it clear that she shows little or no remorse and barely understands why the family is upset with her. I believe the main reason why she attempted to apologize was to come to get a nice dinner. She said at one point..."I am sorry I said what I said to the police officer." When I asked for more info...she said "I know you know what I said." Hmmmm When I asked her why she was sorry, she wasn't sure. When I asked her if we could discuss the situation in more detail, she said "no." When my son spoke with her, she came very close to admitting that she knew the boy was stealing...but came short of doing so.She is protecting him. That part bothers me. What bothers me even more, is telling the police officer that I fabricated information. UGH! She kinda gets that...but will only partially say so. It was a little peculiar. Did she want the food? Did she want her family? That part is unclear. She didn't seem to value "family." She certainly wasn't willing to say that family had value. She spoke a little mysteriously and had a lot of anger that the police were called. She didn't think the boy should be held accountable for his actions and doesn't see where she did anything wrong either. She did not want to have a real conversation about it or make a full, sincere apology. I called her up at the very end of the day before bed and asked her if she had thought about all that had transpired. She said "yes." "My family is mean and doesn't want me to eat Easter dinner with them." [/QUOTE]
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