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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 608126" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi again.</p><p></p><p>Hon, the girl is not making your son make these decisions. Your son is making these decisions of his own free will. It is not her fault he picked her and will not leave her. It is not her fault he won't follow your rules. He has issues himself, whether or not she also does. They found each other because they BOTH have issues that in some way complement one another. It's painful to admit our grown kids are not making good choices, but, hey, your son is not making good choices and it isn't because of the girl. I'm guessing that when they break up, and they probably will, he will continue to make poor decisions.</p><p></p><p>It took me a long time to admit to myself that my son's problems were severe and his own. But they are. His ex wife, who was a piece of work, did not cause my son to do the things he did. He made bad decisions on his own and is still struggling at thirty-five. None of my other kids are struggling like he is, not even my Aspie son. It hurts my mommy heart that Mr. 35 not only makes really bad decisions, but won't get help for his problems so that he continues to struggle when life gets tough. I'm sure your mommy heart is hurting too.</p><p></p><p>But you can't put this all on the girl. She isn't him. She can't make him do anything he doesn't want to do. She isn't holding a gun to his head.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry you are having such a rough time. I was where you are at one time, blaming everyone else. It did NOT help my son to blame everyone else for the things he did. I wish, in hindsight, I had not been so blind. I did not help him with my attitude.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 608126, member: 1550"] Hi again. Hon, the girl is not making your son make these decisions. Your son is making these decisions of his own free will. It is not her fault he picked her and will not leave her. It is not her fault he won't follow your rules. He has issues himself, whether or not she also does. They found each other because they BOTH have issues that in some way complement one another. It's painful to admit our grown kids are not making good choices, but, hey, your son is not making good choices and it isn't because of the girl. I'm guessing that when they break up, and they probably will, he will continue to make poor decisions. It took me a long time to admit to myself that my son's problems were severe and his own. But they are. His ex wife, who was a piece of work, did not cause my son to do the things he did. He made bad decisions on his own and is still struggling at thirty-five. None of my other kids are struggling like he is, not even my Aspie son. It hurts my mommy heart that Mr. 35 not only makes really bad decisions, but won't get help for his problems so that he continues to struggle when life gets tough. I'm sure your mommy heart is hurting too. But you can't put this all on the girl. She isn't him. She can't make him do anything he doesn't want to do. She isn't holding a gun to his head. I'm sorry you are having such a rough time. I was where you are at one time, blaming everyone else. It did NOT help my son to blame everyone else for the things he did. I wish, in hindsight, I had not been so blind. I did not help him with my attitude. [/QUOTE]
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