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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 38153" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Is there any way you can talk to him about this? tell him of your concerns but also tell him you really would enjoy t he break from her as respite, if only you felt sure she would be occupied/supervised. Maybe he could arrange to take some holidays for part of the time she is supposed to stay, and you could send her for a shorter time to coincide with that. They might get a chance to spend some quality time together, which could only help in so many ways. it would give him some idea of what you're dealing with; it would give her some attention and it would provide an extra point of view as well as more likely back-up for you in future issues concerning her.</p><p></p><p>Of course, there is always the likelihood that he feels that her being on her own all days is perfectly acceptable.</p><p></p><p>That's when you consider - what is going to happen? will he notice?</p><p></p><p>Basically, if he is likely to come home from work after Day 1 and fins she's trashed the place out of pure boredom, and he won't listen to this possibility, maybe it's the only way for him to learn why she needs supervision. But if the worst that you can visualise is her running wild and him not seeing it, then by all means, make some appropriate changes.</p><p></p><p>But unless you know better that it absolutely isn't the way to go, I would talk to him about the possibilities, make it clear that it's her welfare you're thinking of as well as his right to have access (and her right to spend time with her father).</p><p></p><p>Something husband said to me, about me (on a different topic but it still applies), is that I tend to step in and take over, then complain that I wish someone else would do things. The trouble is, I'm planning the way to do things all the time so when I step up to the plate I already have things half worked out. I can't, at that point, turn around and ask someone else to do things because they haven't had the necessary lead-up time. What I have to remember to do is to plan, to hand over to someone else well ahead of time. Delegate early, and completely, but be available for advice if needed (and don't get hurt if it's not needed!).</p><p>And I have heard many times before, many years ago - women have a much harder time delegating, because we've been so used to having to do it ALL.</p><p></p><p>Is there any chance this could be you, too?</p><p></p><p>I hope you can sort this one satisfactorily.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 38153, member: 1991"] Is there any way you can talk to him about this? tell him of your concerns but also tell him you really would enjoy t he break from her as respite, if only you felt sure she would be occupied/supervised. Maybe he could arrange to take some holidays for part of the time she is supposed to stay, and you could send her for a shorter time to coincide with that. They might get a chance to spend some quality time together, which could only help in so many ways. it would give him some idea of what you're dealing with; it would give her some attention and it would provide an extra point of view as well as more likely back-up for you in future issues concerning her. Of course, there is always the likelihood that he feels that her being on her own all days is perfectly acceptable. That's when you consider - what is going to happen? will he notice? Basically, if he is likely to come home from work after Day 1 and fins she's trashed the place out of pure boredom, and he won't listen to this possibility, maybe it's the only way for him to learn why she needs supervision. But if the worst that you can visualise is her running wild and him not seeing it, then by all means, make some appropriate changes. But unless you know better that it absolutely isn't the way to go, I would talk to him about the possibilities, make it clear that it's her welfare you're thinking of as well as his right to have access (and her right to spend time with her father). Something husband said to me, about me (on a different topic but it still applies), is that I tend to step in and take over, then complain that I wish someone else would do things. The trouble is, I'm planning the way to do things all the time so when I step up to the plate I already have things half worked out. I can't, at that point, turn around and ask someone else to do things because they haven't had the necessary lead-up time. What I have to remember to do is to plan, to hand over to someone else well ahead of time. Delegate early, and completely, but be available for advice if needed (and don't get hurt if it's not needed!). And I have heard many times before, many years ago - women have a much harder time delegating, because we've been so used to having to do it ALL. Is there any chance this could be you, too? I hope you can sort this one satisfactorily. Marg [/QUOTE]
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