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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 382871" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Nancy, it is very optimistic update. I am so happy to hear that she wants to take advantage of this gift. Of course, I know as we all do, to be guarded and to realize nothing ever goes too smoothly. Enjoy the honeymoon and continue to make her responsible for her recovery. </p><p>I was wondering instead of you changing your schedule to accommodate hers, if you might not talk to her and reach a compromise. It will give her the power of being consulted like an adult without you withdrawing support. Can she sometimes accommodate your plans and schedule as well. Adults have that sort of give and take. It allows her to be a "giver" instead of you. I found that if I did all the giving that I was taking away their personal power and they always felt beholden and then guilty then oppositional. Let her give you the gift of consideration for your other obligations. She is only one of a total family unit. </p><p>This may not be applicable to your situation but it was just something I discovered as my kids and siblings got older. Resentment would grow if I was always the giver. I had to learn to receive and to appreciate their sacrifice too. Just a thought.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 382871, member: 3"] Nancy, it is very optimistic update. I am so happy to hear that she wants to take advantage of this gift. Of course, I know as we all do, to be guarded and to realize nothing ever goes too smoothly. Enjoy the honeymoon and continue to make her responsible for her recovery. I was wondering instead of you changing your schedule to accommodate hers, if you might not talk to her and reach a compromise. It will give her the power of being consulted like an adult without you withdrawing support. Can she sometimes accommodate your plans and schedule as well. Adults have that sort of give and take. It allows her to be a "giver" instead of you. I found that if I did all the giving that I was taking away their personal power and they always felt beholden and then guilty then oppositional. Let her give you the gift of consideration for your other obligations. She is only one of a total family unit. This may not be applicable to your situation but it was just something I discovered as my kids and siblings got older. Resentment would grow if I was always the giver. I had to learn to receive and to appreciate their sacrifice too. Just a thought. [/QUOTE]
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