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Homeless son, 26, how do I cope with this?
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<blockquote data-quote="WaveringFaith" data-source="post: 619158" data-attributes="member: 17636"><p>LucyJ, you are living my life right now.. Or at least, that is where I am headed. I, too, have a 20 yr old son who has suffered severe clinical depression the past 2 years. I have done everything in my power to try and help him, I've realized that I have been enabling him. He now, for the past almost full year, has lived with me basically as a zombie in my home. Never leaves his room, plays video games in the middle of the night, sleeps all day, very poor personal hygeine. He is now refusing to refill his wellbutrin and refusing to continue seeing his therapist.</p><p> </p><p>I have been enabling him, I think because deep down, I know he needs to go find his way in the world. They are making these choices for themselves. I have been affected deeply by my son's descent into darkness. It has changed my personality and my outlook on life. I have become depressed myself and there are days when I don't even know how i survived from the grief of basically losing the son I once knew and loved.</p><p> </p><p>I am at the point where I know I need to let him go. I have a younger son who doesn't deserve this type of household. I know that my older son will head into the streets. He cannot be around people, some type of extreme social phobia, so getting/maintaining a job is not something I see in his near future. The winters are cold here too, that is what I worry about also. But they are grown men and know we love the. We can't keep trying to protect and shield them from themselves. You must learn to detach yourself, as difficult as that sounds. You can't let this consume you, but I know this is easier said than done.</p><p> </p><p>I pray for you and your son and hope he finds his way to a safe place in his life, and that he eventually can come back to you as a healthy and stable young man., however long that may take. I wish that end result for you.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs..</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WaveringFaith, post: 619158, member: 17636"] LucyJ, you are living my life right now.. Or at least, that is where I am headed. I, too, have a 20 yr old son who has suffered severe clinical depression the past 2 years. I have done everything in my power to try and help him, I've realized that I have been enabling him. He now, for the past almost full year, has lived with me basically as a zombie in my home. Never leaves his room, plays video games in the middle of the night, sleeps all day, very poor personal hygeine. He is now refusing to refill his wellbutrin and refusing to continue seeing his therapist. I have been enabling him, I think because deep down, I know he needs to go find his way in the world. They are making these choices for themselves. I have been affected deeply by my son's descent into darkness. It has changed my personality and my outlook on life. I have become depressed myself and there are days when I don't even know how i survived from the grief of basically losing the son I once knew and loved. I am at the point where I know I need to let him go. I have a younger son who doesn't deserve this type of household. I know that my older son will head into the streets. He cannot be around people, some type of extreme social phobia, so getting/maintaining a job is not something I see in his near future. The winters are cold here too, that is what I worry about also. But they are grown men and know we love the. We can't keep trying to protect and shield them from themselves. You must learn to detach yourself, as difficult as that sounds. You can't let this consume you, but I know this is easier said than done. I pray for you and your son and hope he finds his way to a safe place in his life, and that he eventually can come back to you as a healthy and stable young man., however long that may take. I wish that end result for you. Hugs.. [/QUOTE]
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