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Homeless son, 26, how do I cope with this?
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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 619165" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>Thank you all for your replies.</p><p>I have always had a close loving relationship with my son and that hasn't changed. My husband became his step-dad when he was 19, so they have never lived together, but they get on ok and there have never been any major problems. My husband doesn't understand his behaviour at all, but he doesn't get involved. My husband is a professor and can't understand how my son, who is intelligent and well-educated, has thrown away any opportunities to 'make something of himself'. My son has strong views about things that he has gained from reading and talking to people, rather than through life experience. It is impossible to discuss anything with him as he becomes agitated and 'wound up' if you disagree with any of the twisted views that he has on life. He has become more and more cynical in recent years and distrusts anyone in authority and finds it impossible to keep any job as he is soon arguing with his colleagues and reacting aggressively to any managerial control. He has shared houses with others in the past and I get the impression that he is extremely difficult to live with. He is in his current situation with around 20 other drop-outs, and they may plan to support each other, but I know it is only a matter of time before he falls out with them all and wants to 'disappear' somewhere else. He refuses to register with a health centre or dentist and says that he will learn to take care of himself using natural remedies that he can forage in the woods. This is obviously not happening as he is painfully thin and living in extremely unsanitary conditions. I don't know what will happen if he becomes ill. I pay for his cell phone and he sends me occasional texts saying how much he loves me. Most of the time I can't get into contact with him as there is no electricity supply to charge his phone battery. He says he sometimes goes to a cafe or library and plugs his charger in. I worry so much that there will be some emergency and he won't be able to contact me. My heart bleeds but all the advice about trying to learn to detach is what I must try and follow.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 619165, member: 17650"] Thank you all for your replies. I have always had a close loving relationship with my son and that hasn't changed. My husband became his step-dad when he was 19, so they have never lived together, but they get on ok and there have never been any major problems. My husband doesn't understand his behaviour at all, but he doesn't get involved. My husband is a professor and can't understand how my son, who is intelligent and well-educated, has thrown away any opportunities to 'make something of himself'. My son has strong views about things that he has gained from reading and talking to people, rather than through life experience. It is impossible to discuss anything with him as he becomes agitated and 'wound up' if you disagree with any of the twisted views that he has on life. He has become more and more cynical in recent years and distrusts anyone in authority and finds it impossible to keep any job as he is soon arguing with his colleagues and reacting aggressively to any managerial control. He has shared houses with others in the past and I get the impression that he is extremely difficult to live with. He is in his current situation with around 20 other drop-outs, and they may plan to support each other, but I know it is only a matter of time before he falls out with them all and wants to 'disappear' somewhere else. He refuses to register with a health centre or dentist and says that he will learn to take care of himself using natural remedies that he can forage in the woods. This is obviously not happening as he is painfully thin and living in extremely unsanitary conditions. I don't know what will happen if he becomes ill. I pay for his cell phone and he sends me occasional texts saying how much he loves me. Most of the time I can't get into contact with him as there is no electricity supply to charge his phone battery. He says he sometimes goes to a cafe or library and plugs his charger in. I worry so much that there will be some emergency and he won't be able to contact me. My heart bleeds but all the advice about trying to learn to detach is what I must try and follow. [/QUOTE]
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