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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 649901" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I think this is a very normal response after time has passed. I remember my son in my prayers but other than that days can go by and I don't really think about him. It's not that I don't love him or wonder how and what he's doing I just really think that so much time has passed, those long periods of time where I do not have contact with him that it's a natural course and it's ok. I guarantee my son and probably many of our adult children also have long periods of time where we do not enter their thoughts.</p><p></p><p>It is hard to know that my son is homeless / couch surfing. I have always had a special place in my heart for those that are homeless. I worked in the downtown area of a large city for many years and would see homeless people everyday. I did learn to discern some differences in them. There are some that truly are scam artists while there are many that are high on drugs or alcohol, some can be very mean, some are very grateful. It was hard to see this every day and I learned that you can't help them all. Many people would just completely ignore them which I always found sad. There was a hotdog vendor downtown and you could get a 2 hotdogs and a soda for $1.50 so many days when I would pass someone who was begging for money I would stop and tell them that I wanted to buy them lunch. Some would be very rude and walk away or yell at me and others would be so grateful. I tried to never judge these people, just show them a little kindness.</p><p></p><p>I think back on all those people I used to see and now have a deeper understanding of how they ended up that way. I understand it because my one and only child is now one of them. He teeters from being homeless to couch surfing. It's hard to know that my son ended up this way but I do understand that it is by his own choice. I know that my husband and I did everything we could to try and save him, to try and direct him and in the end he wanted nothing to do with us, he wanted to live his life on his terms. I have come to accept that.</p><p></p><p>I guess I'm hoping there is a "karma thing" in that I have shown compassion to homeless people that there will be people out there that will show my son some compassion. He has made it clear that he does not want the help I have to offer so I pray that someone will cross his path that will help him to see there is a better way to live his life. I hope and pray that for ALL of our adult children.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 649901, member: 18516"] I think this is a very normal response after time has passed. I remember my son in my prayers but other than that days can go by and I don't really think about him. It's not that I don't love him or wonder how and what he's doing I just really think that so much time has passed, those long periods of time where I do not have contact with him that it's a natural course and it's ok. I guarantee my son and probably many of our adult children also have long periods of time where we do not enter their thoughts. It is hard to know that my son is homeless / couch surfing. I have always had a special place in my heart for those that are homeless. I worked in the downtown area of a large city for many years and would see homeless people everyday. I did learn to discern some differences in them. There are some that truly are scam artists while there are many that are high on drugs or alcohol, some can be very mean, some are very grateful. It was hard to see this every day and I learned that you can't help them all. Many people would just completely ignore them which I always found sad. There was a hotdog vendor downtown and you could get a 2 hotdogs and a soda for $1.50 so many days when I would pass someone who was begging for money I would stop and tell them that I wanted to buy them lunch. Some would be very rude and walk away or yell at me and others would be so grateful. I tried to never judge these people, just show them a little kindness. I think back on all those people I used to see and now have a deeper understanding of how they ended up that way. I understand it because my one and only child is now one of them. He teeters from being homeless to couch surfing. It's hard to know that my son ended up this way but I do understand that it is by his own choice. I know that my husband and I did everything we could to try and save him, to try and direct him and in the end he wanted nothing to do with us, he wanted to live his life on his terms. I have come to accept that. I guess I'm hoping there is a "karma thing" in that I have shown compassion to homeless people that there will be people out there that will show my son some compassion. He has made it clear that he does not want the help I have to offer so I pray that someone will cross his path that will help him to see there is a better way to live his life. I hope and pray that for ALL of our adult children. [/QUOTE]
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