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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 227253" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I found with my son, and in my situation (which is only US, not everyone) the kids who were homeschooled seemed to have pretty poor social skills, so it didn't really help my son when we got together (and that was only once a week). I think a lot of kids are taken out of school because they don't fit in and sometimes (not always) the parents don't want to face that there is something wrong so they'd rather take them out and keep them at home, where they function better, than maybe test them and hear a scary diagnosis. The kids seemed to be very sheltered and very different from their peers. I could see after one year that this wasn't going to help my son learn to deal with his discomforts. I hated to push him too, but, as you can see, when I found a good fit for him, he LOVED school. On the other hand, my son never had behavioral issues at school. We didn't get the endless phone calls, the "he beat up Johnnys", the complaints. But maybe part of that was our willingness to place him where he could do his best rather than insisting on mainstreaming him because that made him "different" or gave him a "stigma." The fact is, he IS different. He KNOWS it, and it really doesn't bother him too much, according to his Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) therapist. The kids at school are used to kids with differences and are amazzzing with the Special Education kids, although my son is not considered one anymore. They are helpful and sweet and my son has never been teased in school (that's another thing). He feels very accepted in his little group.</p><p>I don't know what I'd do if the teachers kept calling, if the kids picked on L., etc. But we did look around hard for a good fit for our son and we forced our SD to let him go to that school. We did it by bringing Advocates with us to our IEP meetings and it worked like magic. I think, all things considered, my son would have been significantly held back either homeschooled OR completely mainstreamed the entire time he was in school. This is the best fit for him. He really does miss school when he has time off, so I guess we did the right thing. It's so hard to guess sometimes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 227253, member: 1550"] I found with my son, and in my situation (which is only US, not everyone) the kids who were homeschooled seemed to have pretty poor social skills, so it didn't really help my son when we got together (and that was only once a week). I think a lot of kids are taken out of school because they don't fit in and sometimes (not always) the parents don't want to face that there is something wrong so they'd rather take them out and keep them at home, where they function better, than maybe test them and hear a scary diagnosis. The kids seemed to be very sheltered and very different from their peers. I could see after one year that this wasn't going to help my son learn to deal with his discomforts. I hated to push him too, but, as you can see, when I found a good fit for him, he LOVED school. On the other hand, my son never had behavioral issues at school. We didn't get the endless phone calls, the "he beat up Johnnys", the complaints. But maybe part of that was our willingness to place him where he could do his best rather than insisting on mainstreaming him because that made him "different" or gave him a "stigma." The fact is, he IS different. He KNOWS it, and it really doesn't bother him too much, according to his Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) therapist. The kids at school are used to kids with differences and are amazzzing with the Special Education kids, although my son is not considered one anymore. They are helpful and sweet and my son has never been teased in school (that's another thing). He feels very accepted in his little group. I don't know what I'd do if the teachers kept calling, if the kids picked on L., etc. But we did look around hard for a good fit for our son and we forced our SD to let him go to that school. We did it by bringing Advocates with us to our IEP meetings and it worked like magic. I think, all things considered, my son would have been significantly held back either homeschooled OR completely mainstreamed the entire time he was in school. This is the best fit for him. He really does miss school when he has time off, so I guess we did the right thing. It's so hard to guess sometimes. [/QUOTE]
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