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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 109641" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I fully agree that appropriate, thoughtfully assigned homework is crucial to the learning process. It often helps to set a routine early in a child's life regarding homework.</p><p></p><p>Many kids today are in a number of after school activities. I find limiting this to ONE per child helps with the homework. We have limited time with our children after school before bedtime. In the elementary levels it is very difficult for my children (all fully expected to go to college, and to take college prep courses) to be involved in multiple after school activities AND to get the homework done. There simply isn't time.</p><p></p><p>So we PRIORITIZE. Medication, therapy and stability so the child CAN be a contributing member of society are the highest priority. School and learning are the children's next highest priority. Time with friends, TV time, computer game/internet/nonschool screen time is lower.</p><p></p><p>With difficult child homework was such a battle it resulted in him becoming physically violent when asked what his homework assignments were. We have NO idea why he reacted this way, but found he had to leave our home. I simply would not tolerate physical violence.</p><p></p><p>With Jess it takes being around to answer questions, and having ALL fun books/distractions put away. We still have issues over content and what completeness is, but we are working well.</p><p></p><p>With thank you, we have to have a pretty set routine after school or his anxiety is so great he falls apart. He is 8, and having him dissolve into a weeping mass of anxiety and self-doubt is just not a good thing. We talked WITH him to find out what routine would work. Together we decided after school he should have a snack (with protein) and then do homework. He does any assignments, then does 30 minutes of reading. As long as we stick with the routine he is OK.</p><p></p><p>With sports it can be hard to get practices in, but homework/school has to come first. If school isn't done, then they cannot participate. </p><p></p><p>This is what works for us. I do not think a debate over homework is much help. We ALL have to do what we think is best for our children. I have seen some homework assignments that are thoughtfully given and some that are ridiculous given the child's age/grade. We all probably have. But homework is a fact of life, just as some jobs are not strictly 8 to 5. My husband has to check his email at home, even on holidays, and sometimes has to bring work home to meet a deadline. It is part of the job, like homework is part of the child's job of school.</p><p></p><p>Hope this helps.</p><p></p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 109641, member: 1233"] I fully agree that appropriate, thoughtfully assigned homework is crucial to the learning process. It often helps to set a routine early in a child's life regarding homework. Many kids today are in a number of after school activities. I find limiting this to ONE per child helps with the homework. We have limited time with our children after school before bedtime. In the elementary levels it is very difficult for my children (all fully expected to go to college, and to take college prep courses) to be involved in multiple after school activities AND to get the homework done. There simply isn't time. So we PRIORITIZE. Medication, therapy and stability so the child CAN be a contributing member of society are the highest priority. School and learning are the children's next highest priority. Time with friends, TV time, computer game/internet/nonschool screen time is lower. With difficult child homework was such a battle it resulted in him becoming physically violent when asked what his homework assignments were. We have NO idea why he reacted this way, but found he had to leave our home. I simply would not tolerate physical violence. With Jess it takes being around to answer questions, and having ALL fun books/distractions put away. We still have issues over content and what completeness is, but we are working well. With thank you, we have to have a pretty set routine after school or his anxiety is so great he falls apart. He is 8, and having him dissolve into a weeping mass of anxiety and self-doubt is just not a good thing. We talked WITH him to find out what routine would work. Together we decided after school he should have a snack (with protein) and then do homework. He does any assignments, then does 30 minutes of reading. As long as we stick with the routine he is OK. With sports it can be hard to get practices in, but homework/school has to come first. If school isn't done, then they cannot participate. This is what works for us. I do not think a debate over homework is much help. We ALL have to do what we think is best for our children. I have seen some homework assignments that are thoughtfully given and some that are ridiculous given the child's age/grade. We all probably have. But homework is a fact of life, just as some jobs are not strictly 8 to 5. My husband has to check his email at home, even on holidays, and sometimes has to bring work home to meet a deadline. It is part of the job, like homework is part of the child's job of school. Hope this helps. Susie [/QUOTE]
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