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<blockquote data-quote="Janna" data-source="post: 236327" data-attributes="member: 2737"><p>klm,</p><p>I haven't been here in a while, so I'm obviously not fully up to date on your son, but I am so empathetic to what you're going through, because some pieces of your son sound like B, and some like D, and honestly, if I put those two of mine together, minus the depression and cutting, I've been there.</p><p>I agree with Heather and Smallworld that your son definately, definately needs better management. I would have big concerns with the psychiatrist not recognizing the seriousness of your son's cutting and self harm, the severe depression, and the fact that the medications do not seem to be working. Additionally, medication alone is not a cure, and although they are working on in home therapy and such, that may not be his answer fully either.</p><p>If I were you, I'd be searching for another psychiatrist. Also, I think that if you could find an Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) with a reputable psychiatrist and a good theraputic component, you could make some strides. When D was in Residential Treatment Facility (RTF), they made alot of medication changes over time. And, they had alot of therapies (equine, art, horticultural, individual, family, etc). You may not find something in your town. B is in Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) 2 hours from me, but that's where he had to go to get what he needed. Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) is never an easy decision. Some children are able to be stabilized at home. But, some children aren't, and that's a decision you need to make. You won't get to a psychiatrist and get a pill or two and see an instant result. Even if you get him on mood stabilizers, say, you're looking at a 6-8 week time frame for possible stabilization. Can you hang in there with him for that length of time? It's not even all about him. It's about you, too.</p><p></p><p>B is really not able to live here. It's funny you mentioned foster care, because we've gone that route, too. B has been in several. Residential Treatment Facility (RTF), too. He has always done well outside of this home, and for the life of us, we have never been able to figure out why. He receives praise and nothing but good words from almost every person that has worked with him, but when he comes here, things go downhill. At this point (he's 17) we have decided he just cannot live here. </p><p></p><p>You can do Residential Treatment Facility (RTF), too, and then do a step down program. You want to find out if any potential Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) would have this type of intervention. Where, when your son is done with the Residential Treatment Facility (RTF), he could go to foster care with a goal of reunification, and make short visits home (say, every other weekend), increasing visits, until you are all comfortable with him coming back.</p><p></p><p>But, you will need a psychiatrist in your corner. Did you check into MH/MR like I was saying on another post? Look in your blue/pink pages of your phone book for Mental Health services, or look on NAMI's website. You need someone that is going to be able to put him in someplace, and you don't have that in your corner. </p><p></p><p>I hope things get better today. I am very sorry you are dealing with this. I can really relate.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Janna, post: 236327, member: 2737"] klm, I haven't been here in a while, so I'm obviously not fully up to date on your son, but I am so empathetic to what you're going through, because some pieces of your son sound like B, and some like D, and honestly, if I put those two of mine together, minus the depression and cutting, I've been there. I agree with Heather and Smallworld that your son definately, definately needs better management. I would have big concerns with the psychiatrist not recognizing the seriousness of your son's cutting and self harm, the severe depression, and the fact that the medications do not seem to be working. Additionally, medication alone is not a cure, and although they are working on in home therapy and such, that may not be his answer fully either. If I were you, I'd be searching for another psychiatrist. Also, I think that if you could find an Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) with a reputable psychiatrist and a good theraputic component, you could make some strides. When D was in Residential Treatment Facility (RTF), they made alot of medication changes over time. And, they had alot of therapies (equine, art, horticultural, individual, family, etc). You may not find something in your town. B is in Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) 2 hours from me, but that's where he had to go to get what he needed. Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) is never an easy decision. Some children are able to be stabilized at home. But, some children aren't, and that's a decision you need to make. You won't get to a psychiatrist and get a pill or two and see an instant result. Even if you get him on mood stabilizers, say, you're looking at a 6-8 week time frame for possible stabilization. Can you hang in there with him for that length of time? It's not even all about him. It's about you, too. B is really not able to live here. It's funny you mentioned foster care, because we've gone that route, too. B has been in several. Residential Treatment Facility (RTF), too. He has always done well outside of this home, and for the life of us, we have never been able to figure out why. He receives praise and nothing but good words from almost every person that has worked with him, but when he comes here, things go downhill. At this point (he's 17) we have decided he just cannot live here. You can do Residential Treatment Facility (RTF), too, and then do a step down program. You want to find out if any potential Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) would have this type of intervention. Where, when your son is done with the Residential Treatment Facility (RTF), he could go to foster care with a goal of reunification, and make short visits home (say, every other weekend), increasing visits, until you are all comfortable with him coming back. But, you will need a psychiatrist in your corner. Did you check into MH/MR like I was saying on another post? Look in your blue/pink pages of your phone book for Mental Health services, or look on NAMI's website. You need someone that is going to be able to put him in someplace, and you don't have that in your corner. I hope things get better today. I am very sorry you are dealing with this. I can really relate. [/QUOTE]
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