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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 371759" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>You know, as stupid as this must sound, I still think there could be some hope if we could move out of this area and get family therapy going from VA before he meets a new set of friends to sneak around with. That's the part of me that believes there should have been transitional supports in place and a strong family therapy while in Department of Juvenile Justice and that honestly thinks there is no way a kid can spend over a year incarcerated at 14yo and hear all kinds of mixed messages and be used to spending 24/7 with a lot of difficult child's who have done a LOT worse than him and come out and magically be a easy child- it's just not going to happen and sending him back into it isn't going to help at all.</p><p></p><p>on the other hand, I'm steaming with him right now and doubt very seriously that anyone at the courts is going to have any tolerance at all for this. And I absolutely cringe at the thought of another round in court and blame and evaluations, etc, and all of it dragging on for a month or so before I can even get an answer about what they are going to do with him this time. And if I advocate for what I said in the first paragraph, then if the judge allowed it, it would mean that they would have to "monitor" the therapy, which translates into them taking over it and dictating what is to be covered in therapy and how they want it treated and throw away any prof's recommendations because they will decide when, where, and what gets done. Thus, therapy will not be successful that way. </p><p></p><p>I'll discuss all this with PO. The main thing is, I simply am no longer in a position to sit on hold for 4 or more weeks waiting to find out where difficult child will be and for how long. One set of procedures/policies/help is in place if he's at home with me, another if he's in detention, another if he's turned over to Department of Juvenile Justice, and yet another if he's sent to DSS- God forbid.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 371759, member: 3699"] You know, as stupid as this must sound, I still think there could be some hope if we could move out of this area and get family therapy going from VA before he meets a new set of friends to sneak around with. That's the part of me that believes there should have been transitional supports in place and a strong family therapy while in Department of Juvenile Justice and that honestly thinks there is no way a kid can spend over a year incarcerated at 14yo and hear all kinds of mixed messages and be used to spending 24/7 with a lot of difficult child's who have done a LOT worse than him and come out and magically be a easy child- it's just not going to happen and sending him back into it isn't going to help at all. on the other hand, I'm steaming with him right now and doubt very seriously that anyone at the courts is going to have any tolerance at all for this. And I absolutely cringe at the thought of another round in court and blame and evaluations, etc, and all of it dragging on for a month or so before I can even get an answer about what they are going to do with him this time. And if I advocate for what I said in the first paragraph, then if the judge allowed it, it would mean that they would have to "monitor" the therapy, which translates into them taking over it and dictating what is to be covered in therapy and how they want it treated and throw away any prof's recommendations because they will decide when, where, and what gets done. Thus, therapy will not be successful that way. I'll discuss all this with PO. The main thing is, I simply am no longer in a position to sit on hold for 4 or more weeks waiting to find out where difficult child will be and for how long. One set of procedures/policies/help is in place if he's at home with me, another if he's in detention, another if he's turned over to Department of Juvenile Justice, and yet another if he's sent to DSS- God forbid. [/QUOTE]
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