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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 552883" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Im glad also your husband told him to stick up for himself. I hate bullies. I didnt get a chance to reply to your other thread but I had an awful experience with the same type of thing with my oldest son. He was the epitome of the stereotypical geek in late elementary school and middle school. In elementary school he did fine because he went to a very small school and the teachers were wonderful to him plus his younger brothers were there to beat the snot out of anyone who messed with him. However when he entered middle school it was a whole new ball game. </p><p></p><p>This middle school basically was basically made up of Indian kids, then a percentage of black kids and probably 10% white kids. Not very many because of the area it covered. Billy stood out like a sore thumb because he was academically gifted but learning disabled. Heck I had to fight the Sped teachers to even understand that existed! He wore a pocket protector, read a bunch of books constantly from the classics like Homer, Plato, War and Peace, etc. He wore these huge black birth control glasses that medicaid paid for back then because he had to have such thick lenses. He constantly had his shoe laces untied. In other words, he was walking bully bait. </p><p></p><p>One day not long into the school year, I got called to come pick him up because some kids had beat him up at school, beat him in the face during gym class and broke his glasses. I stormed down there and his face was all swollen up. Glasses smashed to smithereens. I had to take him to the hospital about his face. Glasses couldnt be fixed so I had to pay for a new pair. His cheek bone was slightly fractured. </p><p></p><p>I went back to the school and demanded the names of the kids who did this to him so I could sue the parents to make them pay for the bills. They wouldnt give them to me. Said they were handling it in house. I said I wanted them prosecuted so that the courts would make them pay restitution. No go. </p><p></p><p>Two weeks later same thing happened. This time the school brought him to me at work. He was beat as he was getting off the bus. Again glasses broke but they took the glasses with them this time. I asked if the bus driver saw the kids. Nope. No one saw a thing. I was furious. I demanded that something be done. I had Cory with me when I went to the school. The school told me that Billy needed to learn to stand up for himself more and fight back. Now you have to understand Billy. He is a big boy but he cannot fight a bit. He telegraphs his punches. He would get beat to smithereens and then get suspended. I told them the only way Billy could stand up for himself was to bring a loaded handgun to school. Was that what the wanted? </p><p></p><p>Cory sat there and listened to this whole exchange. And we wonder why he grew up to hold his own in fights at school. He heard the authorities in school tell me that my oldest should do just that.</p><p></p><p>I ended up removing my oldest from my school system and turning him over to my mother which was the biggest mistake of my life. If I had realized I could have transferred him to another school in my district I would have done that but I didnt know I could do that back then.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 552883, member: 1514"] Im glad also your husband told him to stick up for himself. I hate bullies. I didnt get a chance to reply to your other thread but I had an awful experience with the same type of thing with my oldest son. He was the epitome of the stereotypical geek in late elementary school and middle school. In elementary school he did fine because he went to a very small school and the teachers were wonderful to him plus his younger brothers were there to beat the snot out of anyone who messed with him. However when he entered middle school it was a whole new ball game. This middle school basically was basically made up of Indian kids, then a percentage of black kids and probably 10% white kids. Not very many because of the area it covered. Billy stood out like a sore thumb because he was academically gifted but learning disabled. Heck I had to fight the Sped teachers to even understand that existed! He wore a pocket protector, read a bunch of books constantly from the classics like Homer, Plato, War and Peace, etc. He wore these huge black birth control glasses that medicaid paid for back then because he had to have such thick lenses. He constantly had his shoe laces untied. In other words, he was walking bully bait. One day not long into the school year, I got called to come pick him up because some kids had beat him up at school, beat him in the face during gym class and broke his glasses. I stormed down there and his face was all swollen up. Glasses smashed to smithereens. I had to take him to the hospital about his face. Glasses couldnt be fixed so I had to pay for a new pair. His cheek bone was slightly fractured. I went back to the school and demanded the names of the kids who did this to him so I could sue the parents to make them pay for the bills. They wouldnt give them to me. Said they were handling it in house. I said I wanted them prosecuted so that the courts would make them pay restitution. No go. Two weeks later same thing happened. This time the school brought him to me at work. He was beat as he was getting off the bus. Again glasses broke but they took the glasses with them this time. I asked if the bus driver saw the kids. Nope. No one saw a thing. I was furious. I demanded that something be done. I had Cory with me when I went to the school. The school told me that Billy needed to learn to stand up for himself more and fight back. Now you have to understand Billy. He is a big boy but he cannot fight a bit. He telegraphs his punches. He would get beat to smithereens and then get suspended. I told them the only way Billy could stand up for himself was to bring a loaded handgun to school. Was that what the wanted? Cory sat there and listened to this whole exchange. And we wonder why he grew up to hold his own in fights at school. He heard the authorities in school tell me that my oldest should do just that. I ended up removing my oldest from my school system and turning him over to my mother which was the biggest mistake of my life. If I had realized I could have transferred him to another school in my district I would have done that but I didnt know I could do that back then. [/QUOTE]
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