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How bad can bi-polar get? Any experience here?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 657593" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>When your adult child hurts you, purposely....That is what I am considering here.</p><p></p><p>Not the other kinds, that can if we try hard enough, be excused away. Not those we have lived through.</p><p></p><p>Like the myriad versions of their not thinking or caring about the consequences to you of X and Y and Z.</p><p></p><p>You know how they go: You value only as long as you are fulfilling his needs. And he sets the standard: 100 percent. One hundred percent of my needs and wants....anything less, YOU are failing me. YOU are abusing me.</p><p></p><p>Or the other variant. Saying or doing mean things, that can be dismissed by one motivated to do so, as thoughtless, spontaneous, reactive or in the moment acts, of one angered; or defensive; or seeking cover; or advantage.</p><p></p><p>Those one lets pass. Because they can be called something other than the purposeful and premeditated deliberate hurting of you.</p><p></p><p>Of course I need not speak of the harm we suffer, our vulnerability to their vulnerability. Decisions made poorly or decisions made consciously seeking risk.</p><p></p><p>I need not speak of the mountains of mother corpses, dead from hurts that have been excused, and excused, and again, excused.</p><p></p><p>Here I speak of the harm done to me, deliberately intended, purposely, surgically sought, having been studied by my child...to injure me.</p><p></p><p>That is the rabbit hole I find myself in. Where the only escape is chewing off my arm...or leg...in order to escape, the reality I find myself in.</p><p></p><p>Cedar speaks of respite, of resting, and digesting, not responding. Sitting with feelings, until the truth of them, is revealed.</p><p></p><p>What comes forth from me is a scream. Just a scream.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 657593, member: 18958"] When your adult child hurts you, purposely....That is what I am considering here. Not the other kinds, that can if we try hard enough, be excused away. Not those we have lived through. Like the myriad versions of their not thinking or caring about the consequences to you of X and Y and Z. You know how they go: You value only as long as you are fulfilling his needs. And he sets the standard: 100 percent. One hundred percent of my needs and wants....anything less, YOU are failing me. YOU are abusing me. Or the other variant. Saying or doing mean things, that can be dismissed by one motivated to do so, as thoughtless, spontaneous, reactive or in the moment acts, of one angered; or defensive; or seeking cover; or advantage. Those one lets pass. Because they can be called something other than the purposeful and premeditated deliberate hurting of you. Of course I need not speak of the harm we suffer, our vulnerability to their vulnerability. Decisions made poorly or decisions made consciously seeking risk. I need not speak of the mountains of mother corpses, dead from hurts that have been excused, and excused, and again, excused. Here I speak of the harm done to me, deliberately intended, purposely, surgically sought, having been studied by my child...to injure me. That is the rabbit hole I find myself in. Where the only escape is chewing off my arm...or leg...in order to escape, the reality I find myself in. Cedar speaks of respite, of resting, and digesting, not responding. Sitting with feelings, until the truth of them, is revealed. What comes forth from me is a scream. Just a scream. [/QUOTE]
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