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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 280181" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Forgot to add this:</p><p>It is an especially tough situation for you because you SEE the behaviors, the escalation, and the determination behind everything difficult child does. Having husband brush off your fears, and the therapist feed into this, makes you wonder if YOU are sane. Because how can a sane person think that difficult child's actions are "normal" or "typical teen"??</p><p></p><p>I know you love stepdau. But you cannot keep your children in this environment. You can't sacrifice your children on the altar of difficult child's illness. If husband and biomom (if she is in the picture) refuse to see the danger to her, well, you can only do so much about that. </p><p></p><p>But you MUST get your children out of this situation. Get stepdau out of it if possible, but if you have to leave her with husband while you get your bio kids out, then that is what you have to do.</p><p></p><p>You would have to ask child protection if you can keep stepdau as a foster kid or placement while husband pours all of his energy into "proving" that difficult child is not a problem. At the very least you need to report husband after you leave if stepdau stays with him. Because the violence will be focused on stepdau if you are not aroung for him to torment.</p><p></p><p>This situation totally HOOVERS!!</p><p></p><p>Please don't wait too long to get out. Not saying divorce husband, that is a call only you and husband can make. But get the kids out and yourself out. If you have to be a family of different addresses, well that is what it is. It seems to work for some of us. </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry that you have to deal with this. I hope you know the W in WSM stands for Wonderful. </p><p></p><p>do you know what you get when you turn MOM upside down? You get WOW!! Because that is what MOM's are!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 280181, member: 1233"] Forgot to add this: It is an especially tough situation for you because you SEE the behaviors, the escalation, and the determination behind everything difficult child does. Having husband brush off your fears, and the therapist feed into this, makes you wonder if YOU are sane. Because how can a sane person think that difficult child's actions are "normal" or "typical teen"?? I know you love stepdau. But you cannot keep your children in this environment. You can't sacrifice your children on the altar of difficult child's illness. If husband and biomom (if she is in the picture) refuse to see the danger to her, well, you can only do so much about that. But you MUST get your children out of this situation. Get stepdau out of it if possible, but if you have to leave her with husband while you get your bio kids out, then that is what you have to do. You would have to ask child protection if you can keep stepdau as a foster kid or placement while husband pours all of his energy into "proving" that difficult child is not a problem. At the very least you need to report husband after you leave if stepdau stays with him. Because the violence will be focused on stepdau if you are not aroung for him to torment. This situation totally HOOVERS!! Please don't wait too long to get out. Not saying divorce husband, that is a call only you and husband can make. But get the kids out and yourself out. If you have to be a family of different addresses, well that is what it is. It seems to work for some of us. I am so sorry that you have to deal with this. I hope you know the W in WSM stands for Wonderful. do you know what you get when you turn MOM upside down? You get WOW!! Because that is what MOM's are! [/QUOTE]
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