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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 280585" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>WSM, I don't think anyone here is getting frustrated with you.</p><p>I think a lot of us have lived through the horror of having an unstable and violent child in our home, representing a real and significant danger to our other children and ourselves. We're giving support and advice based on our knowledge of the system, and first-hand experiences.</p><p></p><p>If you're sensing any frustration in people's posts, it's at the fact that you're trapped in such a difficult situation, and that your husband seems to be wilfully blind to what's going on. Something that we can see so clearly at a distance, he seems unable to see or accept.</p><p></p><p>Like the others, I urge you to make the report to DCF, get your children out of there, and help your step-daughter as much as you possibly can. I also understand how difficult it can be to deal with the system, and that you really are walking through a minefield, given your past experiences with the DCF, and the volatile situation between you, husband and difficult child.</p><p></p><p>I don't think anyone is suggesting divorce or any long-term decisions at this point. What we're suggesting is that you find a safe haven for yourself and your other children, and leave husband to figure out how best to manage difficult child, since that seems to be his sole focus at the moment. If/when husband realizes that difficult child needs long-term care in a controlled environment, then you may be able to reunite your family under the same roof.</p><p></p><p>If you're able to do nothing else, please take Susiestar's suggestion and have a bag ready in a safe place with all the essentials you need, in case you have to flee in a hurry. In addition to medications, doctors' contact information, etc. I would also recommend keeping a copy of all documentation you have relating to difficult child and his issues. If you keep a log, pack a copy. Keep a copy of the drawings you mentioned. Anything you think you might need.</p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry. The situation really seems to be escalating.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 280585, member: 3907"] WSM, I don't think anyone here is getting frustrated with you. I think a lot of us have lived through the horror of having an unstable and violent child in our home, representing a real and significant danger to our other children and ourselves. We're giving support and advice based on our knowledge of the system, and first-hand experiences. If you're sensing any frustration in people's posts, it's at the fact that you're trapped in such a difficult situation, and that your husband seems to be wilfully blind to what's going on. Something that we can see so clearly at a distance, he seems unable to see or accept. Like the others, I urge you to make the report to DCF, get your children out of there, and help your step-daughter as much as you possibly can. I also understand how difficult it can be to deal with the system, and that you really are walking through a minefield, given your past experiences with the DCF, and the volatile situation between you, husband and difficult child. I don't think anyone is suggesting divorce or any long-term decisions at this point. What we're suggesting is that you find a safe haven for yourself and your other children, and leave husband to figure out how best to manage difficult child, since that seems to be his sole focus at the moment. If/when husband realizes that difficult child needs long-term care in a controlled environment, then you may be able to reunite your family under the same roof. If you're able to do nothing else, please take Susiestar's suggestion and have a bag ready in a safe place with all the essentials you need, in case you have to flee in a hurry. In addition to medications, doctors' contact information, etc. I would also recommend keeping a copy of all documentation you have relating to difficult child and his issues. If you keep a log, pack a copy. Keep a copy of the drawings you mentioned. Anything you think you might need. I'm so sorry. The situation really seems to be escalating. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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