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<blockquote data-quote="WSM" data-source="post: 281397" data-attributes="member: 5169"><p>Another fight last night.</p><p> </p><p>Apparently daughter is missing her DS again, it was under her pillow. She's also missing her gameboy she bought second hand with her allowance. husband says difficult child couldn't do it because he was at day camp all day. I asked, "Did you leave him alone in the morning to wander around unsupervised?" (I'm at work at 6:30, husband supervised the kid's morning). husband said no. I looked at the camera I have on my desk and low and behold, it show husband giving difficult child a pile of clothes and sending difficult child upstairs with it while husband goes into the laundry room. difficult child is upstairs about 4 or 5 minutes before he goes downstairs. difficult child's room is at top of stairs, daughter's room is at top and a bit down the hall.</p><p> </p><p>husband still doesn't believe difficult child did it even if he did have the opportunity because difficult child said he didn't and wasn't in daughter's room, nor does he believe difficult child did the knives earlier this week, and is uncertain about him pouring the corn syrup in daughter's room, and is sure difficult child is innocent about the pills. And he informed me neither the psychiatrist or the therapist (appts yest and today) think difficult child does it all.</p><p> </p><p>Quote the psychiatrist (whom I've never met): she's seen a lot of troubled kids, kids with really big problems and this just doesn't seem right. She thinks it would be best if difficult child went for a month to a family member. So husband wants to send difficult child to his mother and brother. I haven't talked much about his FOO, but omg, they are dysfunctional; his mother is banned from our house with approval of our marriage counselor. She's neurotic, dependent, whiney, clingy, needy, and still very angry about her 30 year old divorce. She's a perpetual victim, manipulative, a liar--and believes difficult child's problems are caused by having a stepmother, 'he was never a bad kid before'. She has desperately wanted the kids for a long time, and she and brother in law's wife think they can cure difficult child just by being nice to him.</p><p> </p><p>I am so opposed difficult child going there--but I have no say. Anyway the psychiatrist thinks that someone else in the house is doing much of it, and apparently the therapist does too. They acknowledge that difficult child has done some of it (because he's admitted to it). </p><p> </p><p>So in one week, the police, the therapist, and the psychiatrist all say the same thing: something's not right, difficult child can't be doing it all, not ALL of it.</p><p> </p><p>So there are 7 people in the house: presumably, daughter isn't doing it and no one thinks husband is doing it. So that leaves me, son19, son 17 and son 14. So who's doing it? If husband doens't think it's difficult child, who does he think it is?</p><p> </p><p>husband says: "I don't <em><strong>need</strong></em> to be on a witchhunt like you do." </p><p> </p><p>I just feel sick.</p><p> </p><p>Did I mention today is our wedding anniversary?</p><p> </p><p>Oh--and to make everything worse: I mentioned that I saw a blue light under difficult child's door the night before and had just assumed husband had given difficult child his gameboy back, but maybe I was wrong, difficult child didn't take daughter's DS when he took the clothes upstairs unsupervised, maybe he got ahold of it before then somehow and the blue light was from ger DS not his gameboy. </p><p> </p><p>husband said he hadn't given him the gameboy back, and in fact it was missing, husband didn't know where it was.</p><p> </p><p>Incredible. Just incredible.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WSM, post: 281397, member: 5169"] Another fight last night. Apparently daughter is missing her DS again, it was under her pillow. She's also missing her gameboy she bought second hand with her allowance. husband says difficult child couldn't do it because he was at day camp all day. I asked, "Did you leave him alone in the morning to wander around unsupervised?" (I'm at work at 6:30, husband supervised the kid's morning). husband said no. I looked at the camera I have on my desk and low and behold, it show husband giving difficult child a pile of clothes and sending difficult child upstairs with it while husband goes into the laundry room. difficult child is upstairs about 4 or 5 minutes before he goes downstairs. difficult child's room is at top of stairs, daughter's room is at top and a bit down the hall. husband still doesn't believe difficult child did it even if he did have the opportunity because difficult child said he didn't and wasn't in daughter's room, nor does he believe difficult child did the knives earlier this week, and is uncertain about him pouring the corn syrup in daughter's room, and is sure difficult child is innocent about the pills. And he informed me neither the psychiatrist or the therapist (appts yest and today) think difficult child does it all. Quote the psychiatrist (whom I've never met): she's seen a lot of troubled kids, kids with really big problems and this just doesn't seem right. She thinks it would be best if difficult child went for a month to a family member. So husband wants to send difficult child to his mother and brother. I haven't talked much about his FOO, but omg, they are dysfunctional; his mother is banned from our house with approval of our marriage counselor. She's neurotic, dependent, whiney, clingy, needy, and still very angry about her 30 year old divorce. She's a perpetual victim, manipulative, a liar--and believes difficult child's problems are caused by having a stepmother, 'he was never a bad kid before'. She has desperately wanted the kids for a long time, and she and brother in law's wife think they can cure difficult child just by being nice to him. I am so opposed difficult child going there--but I have no say. Anyway the psychiatrist thinks that someone else in the house is doing much of it, and apparently the therapist does too. They acknowledge that difficult child has done some of it (because he's admitted to it). So in one week, the police, the therapist, and the psychiatrist all say the same thing: something's not right, difficult child can't be doing it all, not ALL of it. So there are 7 people in the house: presumably, daughter isn't doing it and no one thinks husband is doing it. So that leaves me, son19, son 17 and son 14. So who's doing it? If husband doens't think it's difficult child, who does he think it is? husband says: "I don't [I][B]need[/B][/I] to be on a witchhunt like you do." I just feel sick. Did I mention today is our wedding anniversary? Oh--and to make everything worse: I mentioned that I saw a blue light under difficult child's door the night before and had just assumed husband had given difficult child his gameboy back, but maybe I was wrong, difficult child didn't take daughter's DS when he took the clothes upstairs unsupervised, maybe he got ahold of it before then somehow and the blue light was from ger DS not his gameboy. husband said he hadn't given him the gameboy back, and in fact it was missing, husband didn't know where it was. Incredible. Just incredible. [/QUOTE]
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