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<blockquote data-quote="WSM" data-source="post: 281525" data-attributes="member: 5169"><p>I think husband is telling the truth. I have come across it myself re: difficult child. I've heard his old school teacher say it and the school principal; his military school administrator hinted at it, one CPS lady said it, at least one policeman has said it (altho most don't buy it). </p><p> </p><p>The psychiatrist has been saying this from the beginning. I've never met her, and probably never will.</p><p> </p><p>THe police obviously thought difficult child was innocent, because they did nothing.</p><p> </p><p>I will be seeing the therapist right after the cruise, husband made the appointment at a time I could go. I will ask him about it. And I will ask him, if difficult child didn't do it, who did? THe 17 year old who is at school, work and his girlfriend's house so often that difficult child was home from the psychiatric hospital 2 days and Son17 said, "When's difficult child coming home?" How about the 19 year old who's kind hearted and has anxiety attacks sometimes when things are missing and husband and I are fighting about it. People usually avoid things that give them anxiety attacks. Or maybe it's the 14 year old who's sick with worry that this means husband and I will divorce? Which kid is setting up difficult child?</p><p> </p><p>Or is it me? Me, who is covered with hives from the stress of this crappe (and I'll show him my scabby legs), and who has a very high sensitive compartmentalized security clearance and who has to report every single contact with police or officials and all incidents of an unusual nature. This crappe can affect my livlihood, my ability to support my children, my pension. Me who has to help cover his hospitalization bills and legal bills if he's arrested or committed. Am I doing this?</p><p> </p><p>And for what purpose? In the past it's been said to 'get him out of the house'? But where's he going? I hope not to the $100 a day psychiatric hospital. Or to the juvvie which will cost us legal fees and spit him back out in a month or two far more damaged than he went in. Not to another relative's house. husband suggests every year sending difficult child north and I've always veto'ed it because gramma's a piece of work. If I wanted him out so badly, why not jump on past offers? ANd there's no place else. There is no getting him out of the house. </p><p> </p><p>THe other explanation has been, that 'someone just wants to keep him in trouble." But what is it that I continually write here: HE NEVER GETS IN TROUBLE. difficult child has not been in trouble since Jan 2008 the third time he took a weapon to school. ANd how much trouble was that? He sat in juvvy for about 8 hours, came home, spent a morning in court, got a lecture, had to sort of pick up garbage at his sisters soccer game (community service) and help clean up a project for his stepbrother's scout. That's it. That's trouble for bringing a weapon on school property for the third time in one year.</p><p> </p><p>Keeping him in trouble with his dad? But...husband almost never makes trouble for difficult child. husband excuses it, waffles, 'forgets', doesn't know what to think, doesn't know what to do about it. difficult child has had to do a few extra chores, has had to do sentences, and has had to do pushups. And that's that.</p><p> </p><p>After about 4 years of this anyone who is still 'setting difficult child up' to get him in trouble is a <em>real slow learner</em>. </p><p> </p><p>difficult child doesn't get into trouble.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WSM, post: 281525, member: 5169"] I think husband is telling the truth. I have come across it myself re: difficult child. I've heard his old school teacher say it and the school principal; his military school administrator hinted at it, one CPS lady said it, at least one policeman has said it (altho most don't buy it). The psychiatrist has been saying this from the beginning. I've never met her, and probably never will. THe police obviously thought difficult child was innocent, because they did nothing. I will be seeing the therapist right after the cruise, husband made the appointment at a time I could go. I will ask him about it. And I will ask him, if difficult child didn't do it, who did? THe 17 year old who is at school, work and his girlfriend's house so often that difficult child was home from the psychiatric hospital 2 days and Son17 said, "When's difficult child coming home?" How about the 19 year old who's kind hearted and has anxiety attacks sometimes when things are missing and husband and I are fighting about it. People usually avoid things that give them anxiety attacks. Or maybe it's the 14 year old who's sick with worry that this means husband and I will divorce? Which kid is setting up difficult child? Or is it me? Me, who is covered with hives from the stress of this crappe (and I'll show him my scabby legs), and who has a very high sensitive compartmentalized security clearance and who has to report every single contact with police or officials and all incidents of an unusual nature. This crappe can affect my livlihood, my ability to support my children, my pension. Me who has to help cover his hospitalization bills and legal bills if he's arrested or committed. Am I doing this? And for what purpose? In the past it's been said to 'get him out of the house'? But where's he going? I hope not to the $100 a day psychiatric hospital. Or to the juvvie which will cost us legal fees and spit him back out in a month or two far more damaged than he went in. Not to another relative's house. husband suggests every year sending difficult child north and I've always veto'ed it because gramma's a piece of work. If I wanted him out so badly, why not jump on past offers? ANd there's no place else. There is no getting him out of the house. THe other explanation has been, that 'someone just wants to keep him in trouble." But what is it that I continually write here: HE NEVER GETS IN TROUBLE. difficult child has not been in trouble since Jan 2008 the third time he took a weapon to school. ANd how much trouble was that? He sat in juvvy for about 8 hours, came home, spent a morning in court, got a lecture, had to sort of pick up garbage at his sisters soccer game (community service) and help clean up a project for his stepbrother's scout. That's it. That's trouble for bringing a weapon on school property for the third time in one year. Keeping him in trouble with his dad? But...husband almost never makes trouble for difficult child. husband excuses it, waffles, 'forgets', doesn't know what to think, doesn't know what to do about it. difficult child has had to do a few extra chores, has had to do sentences, and has had to do pushups. And that's that. After about 4 years of this anyone who is still 'setting difficult child up' to get him in trouble is a [I]real slow learner[/I]. difficult child doesn't get into trouble. [/QUOTE]
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