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How did I not see detachment right in front of me?
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<blockquote data-quote="Snow White" data-source="post: 703332" data-attributes="member: 355"><p>Thanks so much for your responses! I know it'll take a while before I get this all right but I'm on the right path. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Exactly! I know that every angry email/phone call that says she is "done" will follow with communication the following week or so. She's waiting for the standard response she has been used to getting and now it isn't coming. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Likewise, Lil. I have the photo of the 2 of us from last year when I traveled to Asia to see her (I look great and the background of the beach is gorgeous). It also keeps me in check that she can be charming one moment and malicious the next.</p><p></p><p></p><p>That's all we can hope for now. I can't control her life but I'm taking mine back.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Glad I could make someone smile! It was a good moment for me, as when this stuff happens, I'm usually upset or trying to fix her "drama". I want to get in the habit of having a "happy response" to a negative phone call/email.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Thanks, Cheerwyn. I have tried in the past to be boring - in fact, one time my daughter said, "Wow, I'm never getting married. I could never stay married for 30+ years being as boring as you guys." I laughed to myself over that one! But I am going to follow up on the link you sent!</p><p></p><p></p><p>Great post and so true. Daughter has always maintained that I have no feelings and am cold-hearted. For the most part, I don't raise my voice or get angry. I think that bothers her because she doesn't get the emotion out of me....well, maybe a couple of times she has!!!</p><p></p><p>Had a wonderful weekend! No phone calls and I've set my email to send her emails to the trash folder!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Snow White, post: 703332, member: 355"] Thanks so much for your responses! I know it'll take a while before I get this all right but I'm on the right path. Exactly! I know that every angry email/phone call that says she is "done" will follow with communication the following week or so. She's waiting for the standard response she has been used to getting and now it isn't coming. Likewise, Lil. I have the photo of the 2 of us from last year when I traveled to Asia to see her (I look great and the background of the beach is gorgeous). It also keeps me in check that she can be charming one moment and malicious the next. That's all we can hope for now. I can't control her life but I'm taking mine back. Glad I could make someone smile! It was a good moment for me, as when this stuff happens, I'm usually upset or trying to fix her "drama". I want to get in the habit of having a "happy response" to a negative phone call/email. Thanks, Cheerwyn. I have tried in the past to be boring - in fact, one time my daughter said, "Wow, I'm never getting married. I could never stay married for 30+ years being as boring as you guys." I laughed to myself over that one! But I am going to follow up on the link you sent! Great post and so true. Daughter has always maintained that I have no feelings and am cold-hearted. For the most part, I don't raise my voice or get angry. I think that bothers her because she doesn't get the emotion out of me....well, maybe a couple of times she has!!! Had a wonderful weekend! No phone calls and I've set my email to send her emails to the trash folder! [/QUOTE]
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