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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 558768"><p>I'm so sorry. Not sure, but I think you might have some legal avenues with a 16 year old. Can you call your local police department and find out?</p><p>There is an interesting book called "Yes, Your Teenager is Crazy," that you might want to read. However, if your son has mental illness, there will be more going on than simple teenage angst. Is there any way he might consent to family therapy? This could help a lot. He should also be attending individual therapy. Another thought...is there a family member he can stay with for perhaps the rest of the school year or for six months until things settle down?</p><p></p><p>If things continue to be so very out of control in the home, and you can afford it, you should probably consider looking into a therapeutic boarding school. They are expensive, etc. But, they often provide a lot of help. And, believe it or not, you can hire someone to escort your child to the school. There are good ones, so-so ones and bad ones, so they have to be researched very carefully.</p><p></p><p>If you can't afford such a school, then I just would go with "logical consequences." If he refuses to follow clear cut rules or is abusive to you or other family members, make sure there are clear cut consequences to these actions. It might not be legal to kick out a 16 year old...I would check that out as well. However, you can take away his cell phone and all other priveleges until he decides to behave in a manner that is responsible and civil. </p><p></p><p>It might not be the right time since he is so young (others might have more experience with this), but at some point if things don't change (in the next year or two), yes, he might have to leave and find his own way in this world.</p><p></p><p>Make sure you take VERY good care of yourself...nurture your relationship between you and your spouse...find joy even with this great difficulty and heartache in the background. I do hope it turns around for you and your family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 558768"] I'm so sorry. Not sure, but I think you might have some legal avenues with a 16 year old. Can you call your local police department and find out? There is an interesting book called "Yes, Your Teenager is Crazy," that you might want to read. However, if your son has mental illness, there will be more going on than simple teenage angst. Is there any way he might consent to family therapy? This could help a lot. He should also be attending individual therapy. Another thought...is there a family member he can stay with for perhaps the rest of the school year or for six months until things settle down? If things continue to be so very out of control in the home, and you can afford it, you should probably consider looking into a therapeutic boarding school. They are expensive, etc. But, they often provide a lot of help. And, believe it or not, you can hire someone to escort your child to the school. There are good ones, so-so ones and bad ones, so they have to be researched very carefully. If you can't afford such a school, then I just would go with "logical consequences." If he refuses to follow clear cut rules or is abusive to you or other family members, make sure there are clear cut consequences to these actions. It might not be legal to kick out a 16 year old...I would check that out as well. However, you can take away his cell phone and all other priveleges until he decides to behave in a manner that is responsible and civil. It might not be the right time since he is so young (others might have more experience with this), but at some point if things don't change (in the next year or two), yes, he might have to leave and find his own way in this world. Make sure you take VERY good care of yourself...nurture your relationship between you and your spouse...find joy even with this great difficulty and heartache in the background. I do hope it turns around for you and your family. [/QUOTE]
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